Dealing with shame after saying something wrong

[FrankieSoup]

I I am FOREVER putting my foot in it - describing that I was always saying the wrong thing too loudly is one of the things Ed Psych said made dyspraxia a 'fit' for me. I've spend my whole life feeling consistently ashamed of words getting to my mouth before I can do anything about them and now, any social interaction carries utter dread.
I know I need to be kinder to myself - now that I know I'm not 'just being a tw*t' - but I just don't know what to do with all the shame.
Is this something anyone else has experienced, and if so, how do you cope with it? I can't just keep avoiding people, and the mental energy I'm using to script conversations is too immense to maintain.
Honestly - I think I'm one of the few people on the planet who absolutely THRIVED in lockdown. Like, I got fit, I quit drinking, I did therapy - all because I didn't have to constantly try and anticipate what was going to be said all the time
Anyways. All and any help much appreciated.

[Tom fod]

I I am FOREVER putting my foot in it - describing that I was always saying the wrong thing too loudly is one of the things Ed Psych said made dyspraxia a 'fit' for me. I've spend my whole life feeling consistently ashamed of words getting to my mouth before I can do anything about them and now, any social interaction carries utter dread.
I know I need to be kinder to myself - now that I know I'm not 'just being a tw*t' - but I just don't know what to do with all the shame.
Is this something anyone else has experienced, and if so, how do you cope with it? I can't just keep avoiding people, and the mental energy I'm using to script conversations is too immense to maintain.
Honestly - I think I'm one of the few people on the planet who absolutely THRIVED in lockdown. Like, I got fit, I quit drinking, I did therapy - all because I didn't have to constantly try and anticipate what was going to be said all the time
Anyways. All and any help much appreciated.

I think there are are far too many other people who really don't give a hoot about what they say and it's effect on others! While it is often also commonly associated with Autism, I think a lot of us with Dyspraxia can become very demanding and expect perfection from ourselves all of the time, which sadly is very exhausting and not sustainable. I also think people everywhere (especially online/on social media) seem more prone to react rather than respond, myself included. I try to be my best self but sometimes my Dyspraxic Goblin alter ego is unleashed and all hell breaks loose!

[FrankieSoup]

I also think people everywhere (especially online/on social media) seem more prone to react rather than respond, myself included.

Oh, I definitely recognise this! I took myself off facebook because I kept either misunderstanding people, or responding without thinking and saying something utterly stupid. I can't tell you how thrilled I was when I found this place! The format of a forum is vastly underrated! Especially that 'preview' button!

[EmilyyNics]

Literally it can be a very embarrassing situation when we say something wrong but we don't mean it. I know what you mean!

[Jan135]

My therapist says that I should care less about what others think of me. Good way to do this is to distract yourself with something pleasant. Anything will do, even if it's just a mere thought.