Mother denying that I am dyspraxic
Posted: Sat Jun 27, 2020 8:00 pm
Hi
I was diagnosed as dyspraxic 20 years ago when I was 6, I was lucky that my symptoms were quite pronounced and my school sent me to a school psychologist. From there I was referred to a child psychologist at our local hospital where I was given my diagnosis.
Through all this I was accompanied by my mother as I was obviously too young to understand what was being said. I am very glad I had my diagnosis young as having dyspraxia has massively impacted my life and getting the diagnosis has reassured me that I'm not just thick
Fast forward 20 years and I am now 26. Dyspraxia still seriously impacts my daily life but I try and achieve as much as I can. I have a degree, a good job and own my own home. The issue is that I have serious issues with my social skills, I have no close friends, I've never been I a relationship which hasn't ended in me being cheated on and I'm pretty unpopular at work.
I tried to discus how I feel with my mother and how my dyspraxia impacts on my life (feeling sorry for myself and needing a moan one day) when my mother told me that she doesn't actually believe that I have anything "wrong" with me and my issues are self inflicted. Any time I have brought up being dyspraxic over the last 6 months she either laughs at me, changes the subject or sits with a face on her and refuses to discuss it any further.
Has anyone else experienced something similar or does anyone have tips on how best to approach this? I feel like cutting her off but get on very well with my father and siblings and don't want things being awkward for them. I don't know what I want to achieve really, I guess I just want to be able to acknowledge this huge part of my life and not feel like I have to hide who I am.
I was diagnosed as dyspraxic 20 years ago when I was 6, I was lucky that my symptoms were quite pronounced and my school sent me to a school psychologist. From there I was referred to a child psychologist at our local hospital where I was given my diagnosis.
Through all this I was accompanied by my mother as I was obviously too young to understand what was being said. I am very glad I had my diagnosis young as having dyspraxia has massively impacted my life and getting the diagnosis has reassured me that I'm not just thick
Fast forward 20 years and I am now 26. Dyspraxia still seriously impacts my daily life but I try and achieve as much as I can. I have a degree, a good job and own my own home. The issue is that I have serious issues with my social skills, I have no close friends, I've never been I a relationship which hasn't ended in me being cheated on and I'm pretty unpopular at work.
I tried to discus how I feel with my mother and how my dyspraxia impacts on my life (feeling sorry for myself and needing a moan one day) when my mother told me that she doesn't actually believe that I have anything "wrong" with me and my issues are self inflicted. Any time I have brought up being dyspraxic over the last 6 months she either laughs at me, changes the subject or sits with a face on her and refuses to discuss it any further.
Has anyone else experienced something similar or does anyone have tips on how best to approach this? I feel like cutting her off but get on very well with my father and siblings and don't want things being awkward for them. I don't know what I want to achieve really, I guess I just want to be able to acknowledge this huge part of my life and not feel like I have to hide who I am.