Dyspraxia in the bedroom

[DJCC]

Hi everyone

I'm a 25 year old dyspraxic male who's just started seeing a girl - she's amazingly caring and supportive but I'm starting to have a few sexual difficulties. I've usually shied away from sex in the past as I know that it's something that I'll have difficulties due to co-ordination issues but was wondering if anyone had any issues in the past with:

- Erectile dysfunction

- Low sex drive/libido

- Lack of feeling/enjoyment during sex

It's all causing me quite a lot of anxiety as I really like this girl and don't want this to lead to the relationship falling apart. I can't tell if these issues I've been having are related to dyspraxia or not and if so whether there is anything that can be done to help

Any thoughts much appreciated

[DJCC]

Also any tips to make sex easier for dyspraxics would be appreciated

[Tom fod]

What is this sex thing you speak of?

Whilst the problems you allude to are not exclusively dyspraxia related I can envisage that you care deeply for your partner and want her to be happy. I expect you're also worried that if sex does not go right she will dump you. From what you say she is a caring and kind individual and is not the sort of person who would dream of doing such a thing. Ask her to communicate what she likes and needs and hopefully she can reassure you. It's not unreasonable to suspect your worries and concerns are probably behind the difficulties you're experiencing. When our minds play over all the worst case scenarios it stands to reason that such overloading might/can sometimes short circuit other bodily functions and cause lapses.

Speaking to your GP about these issues is also be worthwhile as he (or she) should be able to rule out any physiological issues and hopefully offer ideas to help you with any psychological difficulties. Some careful online searching may also yield some strategies you can try to help you build confidence and try and lessen the performance pressure so that you both can enjoy the intimacy.