Friends and 'Laziness' - Story sharing!
Posted: Wed Nov 27, 2013 1:28 am
Hiya,
So I'm in my first year of uni and just had an educational assessment that diagnosed me as having a minor learning difficulty with predominantly dyspraxic tendencies. I just wanted to post this to get some opinions and maybe advice on how to deal with other people that don't understand the issues that come with dyspraxia.
Personally, I've always struggled with memory, concentration, motivation, anxiety, articulating, and ordering my mind in a way that makes it possible for other people to comprehend what my point is. As a result, I've always left work to the very last minute (pulling all nighters/finishing just before the deadline) and the work never being what I would consider the best projection of my potential. Its not that I don't WANT or have time to do the work (I really really want to do it!), its just that I can't get my mind in the right order and state to do it, until it really is crucial. Now in my mind, I am trying my very best to try and motivate myself, and I know that it will get done in the end, and I know I have the intelligence to do it! But for my friends and other people around me, it's seen as me being lazy, procrastinating and not really caring about my degree. Even when I tell them about my diagnosis and the problems I have, it seems that they really just think I'm making excuses and that there is nothing wrong at all.
Its just so frustrating to see other people getting frustrated at me! They see me as a lazy person, who comes out with good results in the end without really trying (because I pull things together at last minute), when for me my mind is in a constant state of stress about what I have to do and people's opinions of me. They can just sit down and get on with a piece of work, and can't see why I'd struggle with this - ("why don't you just sit down and get it done so we can go out??!") Does anyone else have the same problem with their friends? Or go into a state of panic when a lecturer says, 'I hope you all haven't been working too hard and are giving yourselves plenty of breaks', because all you really do is break until you can force yourself to work?
You can see from this post that I have trouble with being concise too! Can anyone relate at all to this post? It'd be nice to hear some of your stories. Also, is anyone else super tidy with their possessions to compensate for the absolute mess in their heads?
Dyspraxic love guys <3
So I'm in my first year of uni and just had an educational assessment that diagnosed me as having a minor learning difficulty with predominantly dyspraxic tendencies. I just wanted to post this to get some opinions and maybe advice on how to deal with other people that don't understand the issues that come with dyspraxia.
Personally, I've always struggled with memory, concentration, motivation, anxiety, articulating, and ordering my mind in a way that makes it possible for other people to comprehend what my point is. As a result, I've always left work to the very last minute (pulling all nighters/finishing just before the deadline) and the work never being what I would consider the best projection of my potential. Its not that I don't WANT or have time to do the work (I really really want to do it!), its just that I can't get my mind in the right order and state to do it, until it really is crucial. Now in my mind, I am trying my very best to try and motivate myself, and I know that it will get done in the end, and I know I have the intelligence to do it! But for my friends and other people around me, it's seen as me being lazy, procrastinating and not really caring about my degree. Even when I tell them about my diagnosis and the problems I have, it seems that they really just think I'm making excuses and that there is nothing wrong at all.
Its just so frustrating to see other people getting frustrated at me! They see me as a lazy person, who comes out with good results in the end without really trying (because I pull things together at last minute), when for me my mind is in a constant state of stress about what I have to do and people's opinions of me. They can just sit down and get on with a piece of work, and can't see why I'd struggle with this - ("why don't you just sit down and get it done so we can go out??!") Does anyone else have the same problem with their friends? Or go into a state of panic when a lecturer says, 'I hope you all haven't been working too hard and are giving yourselves plenty of breaks', because all you really do is break until you can force yourself to work?
You can see from this post that I have trouble with being concise too! Can anyone relate at all to this post? It'd be nice to hear some of your stories. Also, is anyone else super tidy with their possessions to compensate for the absolute mess in their heads?
Dyspraxic love guys <3