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endoftheroad
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sex and dyspraxia

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i have lost my soul mate due to me being unable to have sex to be a man in any way at age of 40

i cannot penetrate or hold up a erection fully infront of any woman, i was prescribed viagra, all this dose is make my stomach unsettled which leads to more problems

i suffer from dyspraxia, essential tremor, and frontal lobe damage

i am not bothered about advice from members i just wish to know medically if theirs a answer or if i should just call it a day!!

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Re: sex and dyspraxia

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Hi and welcome and sorry to hear of your difficulty.

I don't believe we have anyone here who is qualified to answer your question. Please seek appropriate medical advice from someone who is able to answer your question and offer treatment options..

All the best.
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Re: sex and dyspraxia

Post by Geeky_Vegan »

I suggest medical advise too.

I also want to say though that I'm so sad to hear that and for me personally I wouldn't care if a man couldn't get a direction or perform sexually to me it's more important to actually be with the person and be in a relationship and be in love and have the companionship and anyone who doesn't want you because of the sexual side quite frankly doesn't deserve you.
Find someone loving and understanding where sex isn't everything.

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Hi, man. I totally agree with Geeky_Vegan. Sex is just a part of a relationship. Tbh, I had the same situation, and frankly speaking, it was really tough. But you know, I realized that my dysfunction was not about my physical well-being though I still take this treatment https://www.pillpal.to/men-s-health-1793/cenforce-100-mg-37304.html to help myself. But before it, I visited my psychologist, and eventually, it turned out that the problem was only within my mind. That’s why I recommend you be stronger and visit a psychologist. It will do you good. Btw, the only reason I’m still taking my treatment is that I’m 65 and I just require it. So, cheer up, man, everything’s gonna be OK. That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
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Hi, man. I totally agree with Geeky_Vegan. Sex is just a part of a relationship.
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Sex is like air, it's not important until you're not getting any!

Feel as though it was likely a man who, came up with that!
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Re: sex and dyspraxia

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I think our society has a bit of a scewed idea of what constitutes sex tbh.

In Sex Ed at school we’re basically taught that unless there’s penetration, it’s not ‘real’ sex. But sex can be lots of things, and any touch can be a source of connection between consenting adults. You should absolutely focus on the kind of sex that feels comfortable to you.

Something else to keep in mind: not everyone has a sex drive- the A of LGBTQIA is ‘asexual’ or ‘ace’. Lots of people just don’t want sex, or only want it under very specific conditions (‘greysexual’) so it might be worth looking these terms up to see if they resonate. I think that men especially are told that they have to want sex all the time and that can create pressure/expectations. It might help to look inwards, examine what you want/don’t and then discuss that with a partner. It might not be an easy conversation but if that partner wants to move forward, it’s an important one. If not- it seriously is their loss.

Some things the OP might want to look at: there’s a section in ‘Uncomfortable Labels’ by Laura Kate Dale that talks about how big a cross over there is between neurodivergence and LGBTQIA+.
There’s also a book called ‘slug’ by Holly McNish. It’s poetry and essays, largely about the misconceptions of sex in modern Britain and was (for me) game changing.
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