Introducing myself -annie 49

[annie49]

I have been reading your forum today and feel a bit depressed. I am older than many of you and it pains me to find that life has not substantially improved for people like us over the years.I wonder how many of you had your young life blighted by sadistic PE teachers,as I did? I comletely identified with the young Swedish lady(excellent English),when she described her difficulty with craft work .When I was ostensibly learning to knit a kind friend of my mother would do a few rows for me once a week and I would mime knitting, for the afternoon, in a state of terror!I also picked the same jigsaw every time ,to save embarassment.I had so many accidents that my mother called me "awkward Anne".I was often stitched,sometimes on my face.Fortunately the damage was minor,but I
once overheard my father say to my mother that I would end up disfigured and no one would marry me.

Sad to say, although I did marry and have wonderful children,I feel my life has been a much smaller life than I would have wished.

[Grackle]

Welcome. I understand how you feel. I also feel as if I've had a much smaller life then I could have had. I'm finding though that just knowing about dyspraxia now is giving me hope for the future. Just being able to say "it's not my fault" helps.
Grackle

[annie49]

Thanks for your kind response.Now I have joined I hope to make use of the forum.I am going to London on thursday,so
I will spend more time on it after next week.
annie49

[maria]

Hi Annie, welcome to the forum! No, you're not the oldest, I think I may be at 56½. I've never been officially diagnosed (and seems a waste of time being diagnosed now at my age) and only realised a year or two ago that I was, through matching up a checklist of typical dyspraxic traits on a website. I have a sister too who is dyspraxic, and I now realise so was my late Mum and my late brother.

I empathise with your frustrations at school. My PE teachers weren't sadistic, but I wasn't very good at sport apart from netball. As for handicrafts, needlework and cookery...!!!! I still can't cook, it's so difficult trying to do several things at once. My dyspraxic is only mild, but, yes, it has held me back in so many ways. Still, look on the bright side, we are much, much more creative than the average person; because we have fantastic imaginations get on well with small children (I invent some brilliant games with my sister's grandkids, just as I did with my now grown nephews and nieces never had kids of my own, never met the right guy and have a very low pain threshhold anyway); many of us have a particular aptitude for languages etc

We might never be the most logical, practical people in the world, but when we have so much creativity inside us who wants to be that boring?

[jen d]

Hello Annie and Maria. I have just joined the site and I am 52 so it is good finding ladies around the same age here. Had similar problems at school as you. My main problems in recent years were around daily chores etc. Caused strain on my marriage and when my children were small I got referred to social services a couple of times because I appeared to be disorganised it was felt I could not look after them. Social services realised that this was not true and described me as a warm caring mother but it was difficult. I worked for the same employer for nearly 20 years and they were quite supportive (even though I was not officially diagnosed then) but after being made redundant last year I have had problems getting work - I took a job for a while but this did not work. So am now trying to come to terms with things and work out what would be best for the future work wise.

[annie49]

Hello Annie and Maria. I have just joined the site and I am 52 so it is good finding ladies around the same age here. Had similar problems at school as you. My main problems in recent years were around daily chores etc. Caused strain on my marriage and when my children were small I got referred to social services a couple of times because I appeared to be disorganised it was felt I could not look after them. Social services realised that this was not true and described me as a warm caring mother but it was difficult. I worked for the same employer for nearly 20 years and they were quite supportive (even though I was not officially diagnosed then) but after being made redundant last year I have had problems getting work - I took a job for a while but this did not work. So am now trying to come to terms with things and work out what would be best for the future work wise.

Hi Jen , Welcome from another newcomer.I can understand your organisation problems.I was always puzzled by other people doing things with ease ,while I made such heavy weather of it.I do not know if you have heard of "flylady".I found this very helpful and they send you such encouraging emails.
Best wishes,
Annie

[jen d]

Hi Jen , Welcome from another newcomer.I can understand your organisation problems.I was always puzzled by other people doing things with ease ,while I made such heavy weather of it.I do not know if you have heard of "flylady".I found this very helpful and they send you such encouraging emails.
Best wishes,
Annie

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Thanks for your advice Annie, I will look into this

[agsiul]

Can I ask what flylady is?

[annie49]

Can I ask what flylady is?

If you type in flylady.net you will find it.It is a self help organisation for the organisationally challenged.
It is a bit american ,but the basics can be helpful in getting your **** together ,to use an americanism.

[agsiul]

LOL! very good. Will have a look at it. I'm good in work but the arse falls out of things at home because I'm so tired when i get home. Have been trying to get a timetalbe together to help me get organised. Tomorrow am starting at my weekend timetable....fingers crossed.

[annie49]

LOL! very good. Will have a look at it. I'm good in work but the arse falls out of things at home because I'm so tired when i get home. Have been trying to get a timetalbe together to help me get organised. Tomorrow am starting at my weekend timetable....fingers crossed.

Let me know how you get on.