Being honest about dyspraxia with someone you like

[munky1]

Hi all,

Just reading through this forum has been a great help for me - so much useful information! I'd like to hear your opinions on this dilemma of mine.

My dyspraxia means that I find it very difficult to pick up on social cues, body language and so on. So, my problem is that I have a female friend at uni (I'm 21) whom I like a lot, and I think (*think*) she may feel the same way. But I'm not sure, and so I'm wondering how you think it would go if I was to tell her that I find it difficult to pick up on body language, tell her I'd like to spend more time with her, and ask her straight out how she feels about me? I'm usually fairly direct as a person, so I wouldn't find it toooo difficult to do (gently), but I don't know if this would be a very strange thing to do!

Thanks so much for your help - really appreciated, as this has been driving me mad trying to work out the right thing to do!

J

[Ali13]

I think that honesty is always a good policy when it comes to relationships. I would advise you to, as you say 'gently', put it to her that you like her and don't know how she feels about you. I doubt she will find this strange or even relate it to dyspraxia, it's fairly common to be confused here! Tell her about the dyspraxia if you feel you want too, and obviously if you think the relationship is going anywhere, but as for making the first move, it's not essential. She will respect that you have been direct with her (and probably quite flattered) and if she doesn't feel the same then at least you can say you tried!

When I met my boyfriend he was completely direct. He just said 'I like you, we should get together again.' And three years on we are still together.

Good luck

Ali xx

[sanabituranima]

Good luck. I think it is best to be direct.