Boyfriends family don't accept me- call me a issue

[Ames98]

Hi,
In lockdown I contacted my boyfriends sister to say that he was in a bad place and got slated by his family for doing so.
They kept on messaging me like nothing had happened and I was quite upset and hurt about it I asked them to leave me alone.
They pushed and pushed me several times then got a message from his sister asking why I had asked them to leave me alone. I explained why then got blocked by that same person. His mother messaged him saying that I was controlling and said that I know she has issues but she can't behave like that and ignore us when we have done nothing wrong.
My boyfriend knows that they don't make a effort with me and he doesn't stick up to me.
He says what do you expect the way you have went on with them. I try and try with them even though they have had said those things about me e.g. Christmas presents and birthday presents didn't even get a thank you off them.
I have told them about my dyspraxia and I have given them leaflets I don't know what to do.
Please can I have some advice.
Thank you

[Tom fod]

Hi Ames

It wasn't wrong that you reached out to his sister to tell her brother (and your partner) was in a bad place and it would have been nice if they'd been supportive of him/you.

I assume you mean 'stick up for you' rather than "stick up to you"? If he's in a dark place himself he regrettably probably hasn't the energy to. Most leaflets about Dyspraxia aren't much help as non-dyspraxic folk rarely have the comprehension or empathy, even when they do actually read them. If they're closed to accepting/supporting difference and your partners struggles you probably have an un-winnable war on your hands. Probably the best strategy is to look for small wins where you can at least try to give them some small insight into things from your perspective. Is your boyfriend accepting of your dyspraxic struggles? It hurts more because we care!