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How honest shoud I be with a guy and I have a habit of bringing up ex's in some of my conversations with my boyfriend which really irritated him. whoops..........! Can friends of the opposite sex enjoy physical pleasure together,who are sexually and physically attracted to eachother and can't help it.O r is it wrong........?My male Lituanian friend is trying to help me with my dyspraxia.But he cant.what I do? I like him but money loan situations put me under alot of presure.He said he trusts me and begs me to trust him.what if he perswades me to sexual activities with him again,i kinda had a 1 night stand with him by choice,his perswasion and no doubts and a bit of alcohol.He appologised though.The problem is I do want to have sex with him
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Post by Auron »

sounds like a mess.
you gotta pick who you want to be with.
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Weigh up the pro's and con's of getting involved with these guys, and then decide who you want to be with. You cant play everyone at once, you'll be the one left hurt and alone.

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Post by Liz944 »

The best thing you can do is walk away and start a new with someone else.

The situation you describe is not a healthy one and everyone gets hurt...
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I am single at the moment.Ya had it with him last night,liked it,he said he loves me and feel I'm the only one he can trust in ireland since he has a different culture.i don't regret last night but still don't know where i stand with him and the night I had the one night stand was when I was single with my friend.He says he wants to be with me.It will make him happy.he constantly said were just friends and admits that hes inlove with me and wants to go places I go even though he cant
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How do I know when a guy non verbally wants us to be a couple? He uses it through body language so I don't know.H e acts the opposite to what he tell me.help.............?I know he wants me,he has asked me to move in with him once but I said no and have known him for 2-3 months
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Post by gherkin001 »

The best thing you can do is ask him out straight.... Otherwise you're going to just be confused. Dont you think that its way too soon to be thinking about moving in together after only a couple of months? If my situation had been different Clive and I wouldnt have moved in together as quickly as we did.

Take a step back and think about it properly. If you ask him, and this guy wants to be with you then you are in a better position to think about what you want a) from a relationship and b) out of life in general. If your plans dont involve him then its probably better to move on. If he doesnt want to be with you then you know and can move on with your life and find a relationship with a guy that wants to be with you and can be there for you properly.

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Post by Shadwell »

I think you should take a step back also, and think about what you want from it.

if you love, or feel a strong attraction there go for it, but if there is any doubt what so ever, then hold off.

I wouldn't worry so much on the physical side, of showing his affection, like I feel awkward about that, even when I have known someone years, maybe it goes from shyness to the other end of the spectrum, of being really good mates.

yes, a bloke, and a woman can be close friends, even with some attraction there, but when it comes to the bedroom, then I think it would be time to consider it as being more than just friends.

but if you are seeing someone then the friendship will be put under strain, possibly due to insecurity, possibly because they want to be just the one, or whatever.

like I am always told by my parent's if I want to get someone, then I have got to say goodbye to my best friend, and that is very hard to do, especially when I have known her for about 26 years. and having someone in your life for that long, then it is going to be an extremely hard choice, even though nothing has, or ever will happen between us.
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maybe its just sexuall attraction,but I just want to kiss him and I want to be loyal to him as much as i can. I just love being pampered.He said its normal for friends of the opposite sex who enjoy eachotheres company to give each other pleasure.It wasn't just sex yesterday,he put his arms around me and said this "I will have to look for another place to stay now coz hes kicking me out but I am happy,I have you and thats all I want! "God I missed you soo much! "now I wanna be with you,you musn't worry about me I will be fine,and if you do get upset I will too.Just please.I want to forget about it.He snuggled into me and asked for sex and explained that this will be the last time I will be in his bedroom.

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Post by gherkin001 »

Right, the pain will eventually fade, but i suggest you try to cut the tone of future posts as sexually explicit messages can offend people.

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Right sorry.What I do?
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Post by gherkin001 »

All I can suggest is to make a clean break. As he has made it clear he wants nothing further from you then its not worth beating yourself up over.

A little germolene should help with your problem, and with time it'll sort itself out.

You should get a man that wants more than a casual fling, and the best ones are normally found as soon as you stop looking for them.

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He is inlove with me and I think he pictures me as his future wif.He just wants pleasure but with me and he wants my friendship.I love him and am so attracted to him.I am reading a book on love.What is the true definition of it anyway?
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a strong positive emotion of regard and affection; "his love for his work"; "children need a lot of love"

any object of warm affection or devotion; "the theater was her first love"; "he has a passion for cock fighting";

have a great affection or liking for; "I love French food"; "She loves her boss and works hard for him"

beloved: a beloved person; used as terms of endearment

a deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction; "their love left them indifferent to their surroundings"; "she was his first love"

get pleasure from; "I love cooking"

a score of zero in tennis or squash; "it was 40 love"

be enamored or in love with; "She loves her husband deeply"
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Thanks for the definition.Mines definitly sexual desire for him a liking and passion for music and acting.But is that love?am i inlove I dont' know......wb
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