Dating a dyspraxic adult

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Marieellis
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Dating a dyspraxic adult

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Hi.

So my long team boyfriend of 5 years is dyspraxic. So far it hasnt had an effect on our realationship at all until this year. This whole year he has seemed completly misrable and there is nothing i can do or say to make him feel better. He just keeps saying he doesnt want to hold me back and doesnt want me to miss out ( a lot of our friends are having children and he is against the idea i mainly think because of the fear of passing on his dyspraxia, i dont know if i want children so i dont think that helps) he also say that he feels off because something in him isnt in balance so really what i am asking is how to help him find himself again? I love him so much but i feel just now it is so hard to be in love with him the way he feels about himself and our realationship any input would be helpful.

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Hi Marie
I think we're often idealists and put a hell of a lot of pressure on ourselves to be perfect
We also compare ourselves to others which is not a good thing.

Is he working and are there worries spilling over from that or another part of his life?

As guys we can be quite reticent and reluctant to admit to our difficulties and problems as we wrongly feel people will judge us for falling short of society's expectations.
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Re: Dating a dyspraxic adult

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I don't have advice per se, but I should mention Dyspraxic people are prone to depression and anxiety. If nothing else works, maybe bring up seeing a specialist? I know that worked wonders for my own issues.
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Xenavire wrote: Sun Nov 17, 2019 9:07 pm I don't have advice per se, but I should mention Dyspraxic people are prone to depression and anxiety. If nothing else works, maybe bring up seeing a specialist? I know that worked wonders for my own issues.
He has said himself that seeing a counsellors might help. We arnt sure how to go out finding some one that will understand his issues.
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Well, maybe someone here can refer you to someone they have been to? I'd suggest mine, but I doubt you are living in New Zealand.

Beyond that, I suppose calling around or emailing different doctors to get more information would be the way to start.
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Marieellis wrote: Mon Nov 18, 2019 9:56 am He has said himself that seeing a counsellors might help. We arnt sure how to go out finding some one that will understand his issues.
That is so often the difficult part. I'm sure there are therapists who are aware of dyspraxia or willing to work with him/read up on it. Some may even have it themselves.f

Finding them is the hard part so he may have to seek generic help. Havingg examples of scenarios and past crises will help if he gets CBT

Mindfulness meditation might also help.
Is he a reader? If so I can hide this thread and you can point him here.

Also pls check out
http://www.dyspraxicadults.org.uk/forum ... =13&t=7385
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