Lost a New Friend Again

[reyes]

I have a good NT friend with whom I used to work some years ago. We became very close friends for a number of years and then lost contact. I think or know, I should say that I come across as too needy especially when I'm going through something upsetting. Recently I noticed she's been avoiding me and not really responding to texts or responding with excuses that I know are not true. In the past I've said nothing and that did no good whatsoever so this time I sent a text suggesting that we just keep in touch via occasional email so as to not lose touch completely. I did apologize for being so needy these last couple of months( been going through a depressive/anxious episode) and also thanked her for her support. It's the best thing I could think of. I think the ball is now in her court. Hope I did the right thing, but I still feel like **** for mucking up a good friendship again.

[Tom fod]

This seems to a reccurring theme for many of us.

I guess I like many can be overly worried about what others might think about me. I too am conscious that I probably some across as too needy sometimes, feel guilty about this and become overly moody. I'm sure this can try others' patience, especially if they feel it's all about my difficulties and needs to the exclusion of theirs.

You could say a good definition is where you can go your seperate ways for weeks, months or years but meet up again and resume exactly where you left off.

[Xenavire]

Sorry to hear that reyes, it's always hard to see a relationship of any kind turn sour. It's hard enough to make a new friend for many of us, so seeing one moving on and leaving us behind hurts a lot.

I've been through it more times than I'd like to admit. These days I'm at a point that I don't even bother trying to make new friends. (I'm an introvert in the extreme, so this isn't as depressing as it might sound.)

I was going to tell a depressing story about why I don't really have friends anymore, but I'd rather try to encourage everyone instead. Friends are hard to come by, but you need quality, not quantity. If they can't put up with the real you, you should probably keep looking. So don't let this get you down, keep looking. Worthy friends are out there somewhere, and sometimes old friends realise they screwed up and come back, more mature.

Just keep up a positive attitude and be yourself, no better way to find friends worth keeping.

[Danwatts]

I understand where you are coming from on this as sometimes I feel needy or clingy onto mates. It can be a difficult one to explain and the worry you have for losing a friend is unbareable