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invisible2012@
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feeling so ashamed and alone

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Hi this is my first time using this forum but don't Ave anyone else I can speak to.i feel so ashamed and lonely.i went on holiday with someone I thought was my friend and because of my dyspraxia it all got ruined.basically things I did or said irritated them such as me asking if they were my friend a lot and because I hadn't shaved properly or hadn't packed my suitcase properly also what I said irritated them and also they said how they think it would be better with a third person and also they said how there getting fed up with me as I'm always there and need space and I got angry and they filmed my reaction truth is we didn't get on well once and they said they can't be my friend or put up with me anymore as it's too much as they feel they mother me.ive has enough and feel so lonely I just wanna hide away from everyone I had been a good friend to this person
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Re: feeling so ashamed and alone

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Hi and welcome

Really sorry to read that your holiday with your friend has left you feeling like this. I really do not think you should be blaming yourself entirely for everything that went badly. You obviously tried though it doesn't sound like your companion did so much?

His/her videoing your reaction when you were upset and at the end of your tether sounds especially horrid and I hope it is deleted and forgotten.

I'm not sure it will be of much comfort but I suspect people here have had bad holiday experiences with other people. It''s not for us to judge what you or your friend could or should have done better. We weren't there and nor do we know enough about you or your friend and each of your needs/expectations to be qualified to or want to pass any kind of judgement.

Please don't feel ashamed and do consider yourself to be among likeminded people here.
Tom
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Teamee
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Re: feeling so ashamed and alone

Post by Teamee »

Hi I'm so sorry you had such a horrible experience! I think it was completely out of order for your friend (and I use the term lightly!!) to film your reaction. I've been on holidays and annoyed my friends because of my dyspraxia too, I never know what to pack and always take the wrong stuff, and I really struggle with the lack of routine and the time-keeping. So, you're not alone! Easier said than done, but try not to feel ashamed. Dyspraxia is enormously frustrating but it's not your fault and you can't help that you have it!
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Re: feeling so ashamed and alone

Post by Teamee »

Sorry forgot to add, is your friend going through difficulties of their own at the moment? They maybe have taken it all out on you but really they are upset about something else?
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