Dyspraxic + LGB
Posted: Mon Sep 07, 2015 5:17 am
Quite a rare mix you may imagine.
I'm often met with surprise from friends or new acquaintances if ever the topic of orientation pops up and I mention that I'm gay.
I'm not very sure how usual this might be, the sample pool alone maybe so small that there is practically no "tendencies" to speak of any ways.
In my own experience ( I could be wrong) it seems my dyspraxic "quirks" are what eclipse any and all perceived homosexual "quirks" which is where the "no idea" come from when orientation is mentioned. I usually jokingly add "Yeah, I get that a lot, I think it's just my oddness as a person superceeds any detectable levels of gayness".
In a funny way, It's also helped immensely in me keeping a sense of self identity. When so many LGB folk (especially teens and young adults) have so many conflicting social pressures; disgust, pride, "campness", activism etc, as an LGB person growing up It's easy to get sucked into a "social tribe" mentality.
However, it seems having other strong identifying factors, be it a learning disorder, high/low intellect, or academic area, it is a little easier to hold on to the person you are and resist conformity within.... the magnetic poles of a social dualism. (for lack of a simpler way of putting it, LOL!)
...makes it easier to be objective about your own identity, which can otherwise be hard for young people to do.(and that is) one of the many positive things I've attributed to having dyspraxia.
I'm often met with surprise from friends or new acquaintances if ever the topic of orientation pops up and I mention that I'm gay.
I'm not very sure how usual this might be, the sample pool alone maybe so small that there is practically no "tendencies" to speak of any ways.
In my own experience ( I could be wrong) it seems my dyspraxic "quirks" are what eclipse any and all perceived homosexual "quirks" which is where the "no idea" come from when orientation is mentioned. I usually jokingly add "Yeah, I get that a lot, I think it's just my oddness as a person superceeds any detectable levels of gayness".
In a funny way, It's also helped immensely in me keeping a sense of self identity. When so many LGB folk (especially teens and young adults) have so many conflicting social pressures; disgust, pride, "campness", activism etc, as an LGB person growing up It's easy to get sucked into a "social tribe" mentality.
However, it seems having other strong identifying factors, be it a learning disorder, high/low intellect, or academic area, it is a little easier to hold on to the person you are and resist conformity within.... the magnetic poles of a social dualism. (for lack of a simpler way of putting it, LOL!)
...makes it easier to be objective about your own identity, which can otherwise be hard for young people to do.(and that is) one of the many positive things I've attributed to having dyspraxia.