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So i got contacted through FB..

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life works in mysterious ways...

So yesterday I got contacted by a young lady through Facebook who saw me on the people who you might know section and contacted me because she liked the look of my artwork (I'm a sculptor, mainly fantasy stuff like dragons) and we ended up chatting til late in the night
As it turns out she is a fellow artist, works and lives in the same town as me and is the same age, and interestingly single i'ved ended up deciding i really like this girl

so yesterday...

Okay so i just spent another night talking to her, building up mu courage and waiting for a good moment and took a shot!! heres my message:

Okay so time to take a chance, i think you are sweet, pretty, funny and really good fun to talk to and have had me smiling all night. would you like to continue this chat in person over lunch or something? and see what happens, if not it is still great to know you as a friend.

her response:

wow that hasn't happened for a while lol! thats sweet thanks, dont know about "pretty" though.......i'll take a chance and say yes i've had fun chatting to you.....theres a couple things i'd need to tell you first, basically about me, but will leave that til tomo

WTF just happened took a moment to sink in but i knew if i didn't do something with this opportunity i would regret it! and not pretty? i think she is lovely,elegant blonde with a great smile! seems she has all week off and looks forward to arranging something! wonder the stuff is, but nobody is perfect!
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Good luck. Hope it goes well for you :D Let us know how you get on.
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Thanks and will do :)

when should i tell her about my dyspraxia? when she tells me the stuff she needs to tell me? hopefully might make her worry less about her problems maybe or something.
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FAndrews wrote: wow that hasn't happened for a while lol! thats sweet thanks, dont know about "pretty" though.......i'll take a chance and say yes i've had fun chatting to you.....theres a couple things i'd need to tell you first, basically about me, but will leave that til tomo
It all depends on what she wants to tell you. She could be dyspraxic too, or something similar like has aspergers (my wife has aspergers and there seems to be allot of crossover of issues, hence why it came to mind)
FAndrews wrote: and not pretty?
The only people who think (or at least say) they are attractive are massively vain in my experience. No matter how attractive someone seem be most people will see all their imperfections that other people don't.

Wait and see what she has to say about herself. I:f it is something like "I have dyspraxia/aspergers/something else" then you have a good "oh, me too". If not, I would wouldn't be upfront. What I always do it wait until I walk in to something or it comes up in another way. It normally comes out as: *Walks in to door* *Bang* "Ouch! Stupid dyspraxia" or me completely misreading a menu or sign and doign much the same with dyslexia.
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So just spent a few more lovely hours talking to this great lady and well as is suspected it is a few medical problems she has had to endure (bone problem, a few nasty operations) and it make me like her more because of how bright and cheery is despite that! she was worried her medical problems might scare me off like with past guys, but i told her they were missing out!
And yes to make her feel a bit less awkward i told her about my dyspraxia, and she was as I suspected very understanding of it, asking questions and stuff, nobody is perfect anyway and I'm certainly not!
look forward to meeting her
This is certainly a step up from my previous dating fiasco!
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Great to hear! I hope it goes well for you. :D

Also is there an image of one of your sculptures to take a look at at all? :)
Hopefully not making too many moot points... heh... *ahem* :D
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Glad it went well. :D
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for curiosity this is my artwork: http://deviantgoblin.deviantart.com/ and www.facebook.com/madgoblindesigns

Yeah really got a good feeling about this, hope i'm proven correct. will keep you posted with what happens :)
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Well there goes my single life :D

Well when i first saw her i knew there and then that this one is special i was worried the great chemistry we had online was going to fizzle out in person, but nope it was so easy, so much fun talking to her and wasn't even nervous.
I decided to be upfront and tell her how i felt and that i want this to continue even though i had the impression she wanted that was well i was just myself and she liked it!!
So yes we are going to have a second date! we were practically talking about it on during this one. but we are going to take this slow, she told me the night before she didn't want me to kiss her because and would rather work our way up to it i've been waiting for ages for someone like her, and i'm not going to rush it, slow and steady wins the race.
Also a little while after the date i got this text message:

Had a great time, best date i've been on

just wow, scary and exciting i will have to keep doing what i'm doing because it works.
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As of friday we will be dating a month and in love as well :D goodbye single life, don't come back!!
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how are u and ur partner getting on. U r so lucky to have found each other :)
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Sadly its over :( she broke up with me on the 28th, we were together almost three months but she decided she no longer had those feelings for me and she broke it off, wouldn't even do it face to face, felt too guilty. it has been a hard time as i was very much in love with her (even lost my virginity with her the week before) and i haven't heard from her since except a short message saying she is unfriending me on facebook to make it easier for us. been a rough time sadly :(
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i am so sorry to hear that. and to do it over computer/phone is just cowardly u deserve someone better
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thanks and yeah it was rough, especially considering she lives not too far away from me and the last time i saw of her was when she dropped me off the day before :( its been a rough time, last week was one of the worst emotional experiences i've been through to be honest. she messaged me on saturday, saying she is unfriending me on facebook to make it easier for me and not meant as malicious, so that felt like closure to me she wished me the best in the future :( so must be the end to her.
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Sorry to hear that. Hope you feel better soon.
Hopefully not making too many moot points... heh... *ahem* :D
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