Introducing yourself in the real world.

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swan crow
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Introducing yourself in the real world.

Post by swan crow »

So yesterday I was sitting down and thinking, :-k ](*,)
And I thought about something that I had read earlier that day which was that dyspraxia is on the autism spectrum, therefore is it safe to say that I am autistic?

And then I started to slowly repeat to myself "I'm autistic, I have autism."
isntantly something was just abit more relaxed in me, life made more sense.
Thinking back to my rejections, or misunderstandings with people, it all made more sense. Hurtful comments from women and Friends made sense, I've been called a psychopath several times as well as bipolar.

And I think, I honestly think that this is because dyspraxia is a hidden disability and for some reason I have done the utmost to hide it even better, and in doing that people have gained a stronger idea of who i am not.

And so I think it then from now on vital that I introduce myself, in meaningful situations and circumstances as somebody with autism, which leads me to my question.

How do you introduce yourself as someone that suffers with dyspraxia?
And when do you tell people, I guess it is dependent on circumstances but is there a point when you have 'the talk'?

I am wary of using autisim as an excuse for everything but;

Of all the battles and arguments and failed relationships that I have had in my life, for some reason I feel that if I told the person I suffer with autism a more accuerate understanding would be had of myself and behaviour
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Re: Introducing yourself in the real world.

Post by Tom fod »

It's quite a contentious area. While there is a great degree of crossover with shared traits, Dyspraxia is not on the Spectrum. However, just to further muddy the waters, some people with Dyspraxia are Autistic too. There is a bit of a move towards use of the Term Neurodivergent, which captures that we don't necessarily think or respond in the way that neuro typical folk do.

Other people often make observations about what they believe is typically Dyspraxic or Autistic though this is not really based on expert knowledge. We're all unique and will present uniquely and respond and interact differently to different situations at different times based on a whole host of different variables, How we've been brought up, learned behaviours/reactions, How tired, stressed or overwhelmed we might feel etc. As Neurodivergent people we're all trained/expected to mask and sometimes the strain of having to maintain this facade of normality causes us real harm.

Everyone is different and some are keen not to say 'suffer with' For others the suffering is very real.

Whether you formally diagnosed/assessed as, or self-identify as Dyspraxic, Autistic or both (or even Neurodivergent), try to see at as an explanation rather than an excuse. You are more than your labels and they don't necessarily have to define everything about you.

With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
(from Peter and the Test Tube Babies, Foot Full of Bullets)
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