Routine

[Gracemc96]

Hello everyone,
My name is Grace I am a 25 year old Dyspraxia seeking some friendly advice. I am currently undertaking a graduate degree and work part time I have begun splitting my time between my parents and my partners house. I always had a lot of stability and consistency at my parents house as there routine was always the same with very little change. My partner works 12 hours shift and his shift pattern is different each week meaning I can only stay certain days as It would mean I would staying at the house alone if I stayed there permantly . I have been doing this a number of weeks and finding it extremely challenging due to the lack of consistency is making it difficult me to establish a stable routine. My partner also has hobbies and interest which I encourage however I find it hard as sometimes they can go on till 9:30 and I have to be at work for 6:00 am so my sleep pattern is often disrupted but I don't want him to not enjoy himself either. He also wants to take separate holidays as his friends have always gone snowboarding which I also encourage, but at the same time makes me feel unsettled again as its another change in my routine to anticipate. However I feel individual hobbies are important. I was wondering is this something that might just take me longer to adapt because of my dyspraxia? or will it continue to be difficult long term ?
Kind regards
Grace

[Tom fod]

Hello everyone,
My name is Grace I am a 25 year old Dyspraxia seeking some friendly advice. I am currently undertaking a graduate degree and work part time I have begun splitting my time between my parents and my partners house. I always had a lot of stability and consistency at my parents house as their routine was always the same with very little change. My partner works 12 hours shift and his shift pattern is different each week meaning I can only stay certain days as It would mean I would staying at the house alone if I stayed there permanently . I have been doing this a number of weeks and finding it extremely challenging due to the lack of consistency is making it difficult me to establish a stable routine. My partner also has hobbies and interest which I encourage however I find it hard as sometimes they can go on till 9:30 and I have to be at work for 6:00 am so my sleep pattern is often disrupted but I don't want him to not enjoy himself either. He also wants to take separate holidays as his friends have always gone snowboarding which I also encourage, but at the same time makes me feel unsettled again as its another change in my routine to anticipate. However I feel individual hobbies are important. I was wondering is this something that might just take me longer to adapt because of my dyspraxia? or will it continue to be difficult long term ?
Kind regards
Grace

Hi Grace

I think we like to be creatures of habit as we associate lack of routine/predictability with feelings of uncertainty, which Dyspraxia can give us a lot. Adapting can take us longer but we do have to do a fair bit of it. I lived with my parents till I was in my mid 30s before getting my own flat. I think part of this was my anxiety about change and coping on my own. I've been here 9 years now and wish I'd done it sooner but there are plenty of couples who have separate living arrangements, due to work/location.