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Ant26
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Advice for trying to get in a relationship

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Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone could give me some advice or tips to help me .Basically 28 gonna turn 29 in a couple of weeks and got me thinking about stuff and relationships is one of them I've dated and spoke to women in past but it seems I can't take it one step further for being in a actual relationship but it always turns out the same mainly being ghosted most of the time and I self reflect most of time and take advice from my friends and family but still no progress and I know a little bit different with my dyspraxia but I don't know where I am going wrong it's frustrating as I'm getting older and my family questions me why I haven't found anyone yet aha tha thanks for taking your time out to read this
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Ant26 wrote: Sat Oct 16, 2021 1:24 pm Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone could give me some advice or tips to help me .Basically 28 gonna turn 29 in a couple of weeks and got me thinking about stuff and relationships is one of them I've dated and spoke to women in past but it seems I can't take it one step further for being in a actual relationship but it always turns out the same mainly being ghosted most of the time and I self reflect most of time and take advice from my friends and family but still no progress and I know a little bit different with my dyspraxia but I don't know where I am going wrong it's frustrating as I'm getting older and my family questions me why I haven't found anyone yet aha tha thanks for taking your time out to read this
It's an area that loads of us struggle with! I've always remained single and I'm in my mid 40s now. That said there are plenty of dyspraxics in successful long-term relations, the challenge is just meeting the right person at the right time. I feel that it has to be on the right terms and sometimes other peoples' advice may not be applicable/useful to ourselves. I would say one of the key reasons that has kept me single has been my fear of being hurt and my lack of confidence. I think I'm also looking for perfection and that's something I'm very unlikely to ever find.

Dating sites in my experience are not easy and you have a find a way to stand out and keep people interested. No one seems sure of what they do want, though most I've met seem damned sure they don't want me! :-({|= I could be missing the signs though!

Be kind to yourself and find ways to go out and enjoy yourself while also meeting and speaking to women. I hope you find the answer and the right person.
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Re: Advice for trying to get in a relationship

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Thanks for advice and yeah I think that's sounds about right being in the right time I feel likeninwas born in the wrong time as I feel I've been brought to be more of gentlemen and try and treat women kind and with respect to be fair I try and treat everyone the way i wanna be treated but for some reason I people this day and age seem to find it weird, also I think I would like to have companion I know I have friends and family and my cats aha but I feel like I've been lacking and would solve alot problems as in doing stuff going away ect
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Ant26 wrote: Tue Oct 19, 2021 9:26 am Thanks for advice and yeah I think that's sounds about right being in the right time I feel likeninwas born in the wrong time as I feel I've been brought to be more of gentlemen and try and treat women kind and with respect to be fair I try and treat everyone the way i wanna be treated but for some reason I people this day and age seem to find it weird, also I think I would like to have companion I know I have friends and family and my cats aha but I feel like I've been lacking and would solve alot problems as in doing stuff going away ect

You're welcome
I completely agree and concur! The Laws of Dating and what women want seem to be completely arse about face.

I too wish I has a female companion to go places with, cuddle up and watch TV with etc
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