Dyspraxic Adults

Hi I've joined this group as I really struggle with emotional regulation because of my dyspraxia I was diagnosed when I was younger and because of my moms support and fighting to keep me from feeling like I belong and that I wasn't different I went to a clinic when I was younger which helped with my coordination and balance .

But as I become an adult and I'm getting older I've noticed my emotional regulation , anxiety and emotional outbursts is getting worse I either tend to bottle things up or over explain my emotions which leads to others saying I am selfish and only focused on my needs , I don't mean it I just get so overwhelmed and anxious especially in conflict situations with my sister who I feel will never truly understand and love me for who I am and now my husband is showing similarities, I feel broken yesterday I ended up having an emotional outburst in front of my sister , niece and husband and it resulted in my niece feeling like she's the problem.

I don't want to lose the people I love and i want to stop feeling like I'm not worthy of love or relationships with the people I love , does anyone have any coping strategies to help me regulate my emotions please I wish my mom was here as I feel like she's the only one who truly understand my dyspraxia and loved me but I lost her to COVID 5 years ago and it still hurts 🩷

Hi there

Welcome to the Forum and apologies for the downtime earlier.

Please bear in mind the problem is not necessarily you. Some people are remarkably good at winding up others and then guilt-tripping them when they point out the injustice/wrongdoing. This kind of moral failing by others seems to be ever more prevalent.

Equally people grieve differently and the loss of your mother could have placed a strain on your relationship with your sister. Bereavement counselling may help you both.

Hello,

I am sorry to hear you are having difficulties.

I used to have more problems with emotional regulation, as a result of my ADHD ( I have diagnoses of dyspraxia, ADHD & autistic traits).

Emotional regulation is more associated with ADHD.

40%-50% of people with dyspraxia have ADHD.

Mindfulness, breathing, exercise may help.

Good luck !