voicing the thoughts in your mind
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Mistycalez
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voicing the thoughts in your mind
I am 20 and was diagnosed in university so I struggled through school etc getting thoughts on paper as I am sure everyone else does. now getting to the age where I am making new relationships meeting new people applying for new jobs etc, i am finding it difficult to say my feelings to people, especially in a relationship sense. I keep making mistakes with what i say and it gets misinterpreted and its causing problems. I can never seem to get the message across, whether its waffle, nervous or just my mind goes blank. it frustrates me because I see people effortlessly communicate and interact with people but I cant. are there any tips for this?
Re: voicing the thoughts in your mind
Sorry that this has gone on unanswered till now.
I definitely have struggles in this area. My tips would be to always try to be kind to and patient with yourself.I find if I'm entering panic mode due to high stakes my ability to coney full and accurate info clrarly tails off and it can be difficult to force myself to slow down. If others are impatient that's on them.
I definitely have struggles in this area. My tips would be to always try to be kind to and patient with yourself.I find if I'm entering panic mode due to high stakes my ability to coney full and accurate info clrarly tails off and it can be difficult to force myself to slow down. If others are impatient that's on them.
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FrankieSoup
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Re: voicing the thoughts in your mind
I can definitely relate to this.
Be kind to yourself though- it’s totally fine to say “can I just have a minute to figure out how to word what I want to say”. It took me a really long time to let myself do that, but I figure if I wouldn’t mind a friend doing it then odds are that they wouldn’t mind if I did.
With my closer/intimate relationships, I’ve also started asking if it’s ok if I go into the other room and use a messenger app because I find writing things down far easier than speaking.
My partner isn’t a native English speaker and said that he actually finds it easier to converse in English than his native language on some topics because he has to take the time to queue up phrases before speaking and that helps him. I don’t know if a second language is an option in any of your relationships but I thought I’d mention it.
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Be kind to yourself though- it’s totally fine to say “can I just have a minute to figure out how to word what I want to say”. It took me a really long time to let myself do that, but I figure if I wouldn’t mind a friend doing it then odds are that they wouldn’t mind if I did.
With my closer/intimate relationships, I’ve also started asking if it’s ok if I go into the other room and use a messenger app because I find writing things down far easier than speaking.
My partner isn’t a native English speaker and said that he actually finds it easier to converse in English than his native language on some topics because he has to take the time to queue up phrases before speaking and that helps him. I don’t know if a second language is an option in any of your relationships but I thought I’d mention it.
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