Partner of Someone WIth Dyspraxia
Posted: Sun Jul 18, 2021 8:26 am
Hello,
I am not sure if I should be on this platform, as I personally am not dyspraxic. my partner is, however.
I had previously been looking at the generic articles online but then found some threads where it was first hand information, and that helped me see things clearer with my partner, so I wanted to give it a shot and ask for some advice...
Prior to dating, we were friends for a few months, so I know that is originally how we gained trust for each other. it has been a rough couple of weeks where I have let my own struggles blindisght me, and looking back now I can see how I was doing everything that he struggles with. I was wanting answers immediately, questioning emotions, I need facial expressions to understand and sometimes he looks blank so I was pulling that up, etc.
I am terrified of ruining what we have by not being understanding enough, so I was wondering if any of you could give me some tips on what you would want from your partner/what they do for you to make things a touch easier on a daily basis?
I am trying to be consistent with my affection towards him, and always start/end the day with a good morning/night text, I have written him letters for when he may be struggling more, I'm trying to make sure we do the things that he likes most, and I do let him know my feelings towards him on a very regular basis. But maybe I am overkilling it? I don't now, I myself am quite an anxious person so maybe I am just doing what I think would help me? Either way, I still get a kick in the gut when he doesn't respond in the same way, but then I am starting to tell myself that this is the way he processes emotions. Because he has said that he wants me in his further and has even said about living together. Is that bad? I don't know, I really don't.
I want this to work more than anything, as I truly believe we are meant to be together. However, I am worried that the damage is already done...
Any advice/tips would be greatly welcomed.
Thank you in advance x
I am not sure if I should be on this platform, as I personally am not dyspraxic. my partner is, however.
I had previously been looking at the generic articles online but then found some threads where it was first hand information, and that helped me see things clearer with my partner, so I wanted to give it a shot and ask for some advice...
Prior to dating, we were friends for a few months, so I know that is originally how we gained trust for each other. it has been a rough couple of weeks where I have let my own struggles blindisght me, and looking back now I can see how I was doing everything that he struggles with. I was wanting answers immediately, questioning emotions, I need facial expressions to understand and sometimes he looks blank so I was pulling that up, etc.
I am terrified of ruining what we have by not being understanding enough, so I was wondering if any of you could give me some tips on what you would want from your partner/what they do for you to make things a touch easier on a daily basis?
I am trying to be consistent with my affection towards him, and always start/end the day with a good morning/night text, I have written him letters for when he may be struggling more, I'm trying to make sure we do the things that he likes most, and I do let him know my feelings towards him on a very regular basis. But maybe I am overkilling it? I don't now, I myself am quite an anxious person so maybe I am just doing what I think would help me? Either way, I still get a kick in the gut when he doesn't respond in the same way, but then I am starting to tell myself that this is the way he processes emotions. Because he has said that he wants me in his further and has even said about living together. Is that bad? I don't know, I really don't.
I want this to work more than anything, as I truly believe we are meant to be together. However, I am worried that the damage is already done...
Any advice/tips would be greatly welcomed.
Thank you in advance x