Back from the abyss

[gomababe]

Heh ^_^;, hey again to everyone who was here the last time I was active and hullo to all the new members who have joined since then.

Things have been really rather hectic about April/may because of all the uni stuff I needed to get done and all that fun stuff. You'll all be glad to know, however, that I graduated with a 2.2 Bsc{Hons} in Zoology ^_^. That is a lot better than I was expecting and probably largely down to the support I got from the Disability office. Dunno why I waited so long to go now, but I digress.

Anyways I'm now looking for a job... joy -_-. Not having much luck, but I went to see the Disability person at the local Job Centre and she's going to see what she can do for me.

family relations are getting very stressy she suggested that my mum and I attend a support group... problem is there isn't one for Dyspraxia in our local area {there don't appear too be any suport groups for adult dyspraxics in Scotland either ¬_¬}. Thing is, we really need one since mum has issues with me going out by myself {I have a very small group of friends that I rarely see these days} and she is completely confused by my logic when I'm trying to explain why I get so frustrated when she's 'going off on one' with everyone. On my end, on the other hand, I am getting increasingly jealous of my younger brother's social life as well as increasingly upset by little things like my mum having a quick word with me. Any advice about these topics is greatly appreciated since I have no idea how to work through them right now.

Anyways enough of my ranting, just to let you all know that uni hadn't killed me off .

[Liz944]

Crongratulations on graduating from uni.....

I would suggest that you and your mum try a normal counselling session to try and sort things out with your mum rather than looking for a dyspraxia specific group. They can be hard going to begin with but if you work at it things improve....

[gherkin001]

Well Hello and welcome back then!!!!!!!!

Kirsty

[robyn]

congrats on uni

it really bugs me that theres no groups in scotland either

theres a group for adhd parents recently started in my area (i have adhd too) so I was super excited bout that progress until I looked at the website and saw they describe it as a 'disease'!!!!

am thinking bout emailing them to set them straight, not sure though.....

hope you and your mum sort things out. why not try having her look here, Iv got dyspraxia, adhd and disgraphia and have always been very independant, maybe she needs to see that most of us can do this

[Daniel]

Congrats on your graduation gomababe, I'm glad to hear you made it through. I don't have any specific recommendations on the situation with you Mum; it's one of those things that often requires a solution specific to your own situation, however it sounds as if she needs to let you go, and it's somewhat odd that your brother is treated so differently. Good luck in getting it sorted and with deciding what you'll do next. Keep us informed.

Dan

[Liz944]

I suspect all mums and dads are more protective of the girls in the family more so than the boys regardless of how old you are or what problems you have....

[gomababe]

Thanks for all the warm welcome backs ^_^. For the record the jealousy of my little brother stems from the fact that he gets out a bit more than I do and is nothing to do with the way mum treats him {she's actually stricter with him than with me since he has a car and all, but generally speaking we get treated the same way}.

Mum and I have talked for a bit and are working out the problems we've been having. I still think finding and adult support group would be a good idea for the both of us though. that way mum can speak to other people like me and possibly their parents too to find out how they coped when their kids were younger.

Anyways, I'm lurking a fair bit right now so I'm not posting much, but I@m still here ^_^. Take car all luv alana