Advice please
Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2017 12:23 am
Hello,
I just the other night have been told that my partner (24 yo male) has dyspraxcia. I have a clinical understanding of this condition as I am studying psychology. However, due to me not knowing about his condition in the 10 months we've been together I've gotten agitated by little things like, improper use of words (being a university student this can be irritating), his (undiagnosed) OCD which effects my diagnosed OCD, and constant repeating of stories and even in a conversation he'll repeat the same thing over and over, unrealistic plans (getting married within 2 months of knowing each other, moving into my uni house etc) and me having to tell him it's too soon all the time and worst of all him shutting me out. I now feel bad as I know he doesn't have a choice about it and in previous arguments he's always said he wants to change to be "the man I need" but knowing his diagnosis completely changes everything. I love him very much and we nearly broke up last week (before I knew his diagnosis) and I now feel so bad. Any advise on how to cope?
I'm finding it quite hard as I love him to bits and want to be with him but am unsure practically how to not cause him to have his bad days.
I don't want it to seem like a rant about what's wrong with him cause I have many faults myself I just want to understand how to help him more.
I just the other night have been told that my partner (24 yo male) has dyspraxcia. I have a clinical understanding of this condition as I am studying psychology. However, due to me not knowing about his condition in the 10 months we've been together I've gotten agitated by little things like, improper use of words (being a university student this can be irritating), his (undiagnosed) OCD which effects my diagnosed OCD, and constant repeating of stories and even in a conversation he'll repeat the same thing over and over, unrealistic plans (getting married within 2 months of knowing each other, moving into my uni house etc) and me having to tell him it's too soon all the time and worst of all him shutting me out. I now feel bad as I know he doesn't have a choice about it and in previous arguments he's always said he wants to change to be "the man I need" but knowing his diagnosis completely changes everything. I love him very much and we nearly broke up last week (before I knew his diagnosis) and I now feel so bad. Any advise on how to cope?
I'm finding it quite hard as I love him to bits and want to be with him but am unsure practically how to not cause him to have his bad days.
I don't want it to seem like a rant about what's wrong with him cause I have many faults myself I just want to understand how to help him more.