The challenge of family and social and college life

[Little Miss Anxious]

Hello.

I now might be a chronic illness sufferer or close to one, as I have many symptoms of it or ones similar to it such as tirdness, muscle fatigue, rashes, itchyness, stings etc.

What can be done to reduce or prevent these problems below from re-occurring this year?

Update: feeling isolated, suicidal thoughts, feeling depressed, failing exams or assignments or doing poorly in them, getting sick during assignments or exams and not having a social life, although you volunteer and attend a couple of events and you are almost 28 years of age and live in North West Ireland

most people who have met me in their time, tell me and others that I am very cool and very nice. I also get the odd group of people from tourist hostels, begging me to go out for a drink with them, or else they want to follow me around or go places with me or spend the day with me. This is very rare though.

Many tell me that I am very wise and interesting and that they haven't come across many people like that but they like that and it makes me different to many other people.

I went to arts ball, college events and became a mentor for primary school teaching and helped out with a film event. I also helped out with International Arts festival event. I engaged in a few societies and went to some or many of their events and I became music promoter in jam soc. I was also a regular member of a choir and writing society.

I spoke to nearly everyone i came across on campus and I announced a night out on my personal profile page subject group I created, on facebook, but nobody appeared to be interested and there were at least 250 people in my group. Many of the people from the group go out during the week on a drinking spree.

I am fine talking online and tourists.

I do an outside college friend who is very co-dependent on me and believes that most people are bad and he will have a selective mindset of the people who are nice and the people who are boring and selfesh or snobby, pessimistic or arrogant.

I get alot of my family saying ' you should do this' ' why do you do this and what do you think like that etc.... for example me getting books on nutrition and me letting my hair down or wearing a black short dress or dating online etc. It could also be something to do with the way my bedroom or living room is such as how it is organised or decorated. There have been actions conducted on making changes in my living room and bedroom, which drove me crazy because I was comfortable with the way things were and they try to convince me of changing it etc. As well as this we get into pickles of who's book or clothes is who and this leads to me agreeing in the end and having to give my piece of clothing or dvd or book to one of my sisters, when in fact it was me who bought it in the first place. This could not happen if I was a distance from them and didn't let them inside my house or in my bedroom. I try to reasoning with them and expressing my dislike towards it but they still do it anyway, regardless. I have gotten sick of that and want plenty of space from them. For at least a month or so.

Anyway, all of this also impacted on my behavior during college, such as me comforting them while they were sick, lonely or anxious or when they wanted relationship advise or boyfriend advise and this would be often or and regular.

Now I have great mental and muscle fatigue, as well as body complications and had it since 2013. I am not allowed to say to my family or others that 'my family and my co-dependent friend stress me out so much that I need more space from them, more than just 5 days. My symptoms or severe body and head itchyness, rashes, stings and pains.

Thanks very much for listening.

I really appreciating you spending time on reading this, as well as making time, as am aware that you are very busy.

[Tom fod]

Hi Amy

Sorry to hear you are feeling stressed and unwell. Please speak to your doctor or other health professional about your symptoms and how you feel, While I believe you may just accept them to be as a result of your stresses it's important to have a professional medical opinion and assistance.

Sadly it's never possible to control what others choose to do. Our own ideas of what we like/want to do is not necessarily going to be theirs as well, though occasionally things can and do come together.

I very much sense that your a bit of a non-comformist who also suffers with anxiety about not conforming and at the same time annoyance at others' efforts to try to get you to conform to their ideals? I't's not wrong to say you need space but doing it in such a way they others don't react badly can be a difficult balancing act. I also sense you feel other's pain and are always ready to be there for them but feel this is rarely reciprocated when you want/need their support but yet you may find you seem to push people away without wanting or meaning to?