It has been almost two months since my break up, and i feel i have now let it go and i am ready to move on with my life and I have learnt from the experience and come out stronger for it. i feel i am eager to experience it again and try again and put myself out and maybe even get some winter romance I found love once, i can find it again maybe the real deal this time. now i can afford it with my new job i'm thinking of trying one of the proper dating sites at the start of the year possibly match or e-harmony just to expand my options. wish me luck, any advice or ideas would be great
Glad you're feeling a better. I must say I found E-Harmony to be a bit odd. They choose the matches, you don't the option to browse independently. The first levels of contact with your matches work in a structured format. Basically you choose from a variety of questions you could opt to send that person and they in turn send you questions of their choice. If you/theymake it through, you then move on to what I felt were exam questions. Maybe I took it all too seriously/literally but I found it just wasn't for me. It's possible it has changed as I was on there probably 2 1/2 years ago.
Match is more freeflow. Not sure they're necessarily any better than POF. I guess having paid people might be more committed. However,there have been issues that some profiles are not real or are from ladies abroad who may actually be just after a marriage visa. Be cautious, but best wishes in your search.
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
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Glad you're feeling a better. I must say I found E-Harmony to be a bit odd. They choose the matches, you don't the option to browse independently. The first levels of contact with your matches work in a structured format. Basically you choose from a variety of questions you could opt to send that person and they in turn send you questions of their choice. If you/theymake it through, you then move on to what I felt were exam questions. Maybe I took it all too seriously/literally but I found it just wasn't for me. It's possible it has changed as I was on there probably 2 1/2 years ago.
Match is more freeflow. Not sure they're necessarily any better than POF. I guess having paid people might be more committed. However,there have been issues that some profiles are not real or are from ladies abroad who may actually be just after a marriage visa. Be cautious, but best wishes in your search.
okay e-harmony does sound odd :/ and yeah just redid my PoF profile worth a try i guess gives me plenty of options and Match might be worth a shot, even just a trial run.
Okay so a couple of days ago i redid my old dating profile on PoF and soon got contacted by someone, turns out they are in the same line of work as me, similar hobbies (were both geeks), similar age (one year older) but sadly lives a bit further away from me, and she gave me her number as she thinks we have a lot in common and wants to get to know me better and looks forward to hearing from me not pinning any hopes on this but it seems to be a pretty good start.
Getting back in the OLD thing and just remembered now why can be so annoying and disheartening sometimes, so hard to get a response these days even if i write a nice individual message that talks about something in their profile. considering doing a trial run of one of the major ones (match maybe?) but honestly expecting similar results.
The ones which charge to subscribe are very prone to scamming, in which they have false profiles which send you false messages in order to get you to subscribe for further options.
Even the ones with more 'reputation' like match and e-harmony are prohibitively expensive, I used to use match and for the amount of money and effort I spent on it I got absolutely zero result out of it.
I'm currently using okcupid, which is predominantly free, some restricted features are subscription only but the vast majority of it is free. I haven't had any interest yet... but I'm trying to hone my profile. I do have a habit of looking like a complete gimp though and it doesn't much help that I'm unphotogenic
“When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie
That's amore”
well that is why im tempted just to do a trial run and see what happens i guess, no harm in trying out of options at the moment, nothing at work, social life is really quiet and empty, honestly cant see where else to turn.
Oh absolutely, I admire your tenacity I really do.
I'm just also aware of how demoralising it is to pour not only your heart and soul into something but also your wallet.
I'm making an effort on okcupid at the moment... brushing up the ol profile, trying to not look like a complete gimp, sending a few messages out. Still nowt in return so far.
“When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie
That's amore”
Just to illustrate my general misgivings about subscription sites...
Last night I signed up to zoosk.
Now at this point and time I am yet to upload a photo or put anything at all on my profile, and yet this morning it's telling me that a match has sent me a message and that to read it I have to pay to subscribe
Now, call me cynic but who in their right mind would message someone with no photo and zilch info on their profile?
Yup, I strongly suspect That this is built in tactic to scam people out of money
And this perfectly illustrates the reason I hold these things with a healthy dose of suspicion.
“When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie
That's amore”
another thing that annoys me is the 'meet me' feature on PoF which tells me so and so wants to meet you! okay so i go ahead and maybe message them, i still get nowhere :/
Honestly i don't no where else to turn at the moment my social life and social circle is small and very quiet (friends only really talk to me when i message them first ) and for example i wont go out on the town on a friday night by myself because i will feel so awkward and lonely, it will be like now what? feeling a bit lost at the moment to be honest.
I know being unsocial doesn't do me any favours but I simply can not bring myself to go to bars on my own. I kind of need a 'wingman'
I have a extremely small social circle, and my only real friends are a long distance away from me.
I've deleted my zoosk account because I don't want to be tempted to waste good money on nothing and be scammed. But I'm continuing my efforts with Okcupid although currently any interest in me seems to be nonexistent.
“When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie
That's amore”
yep plenty of looks but not much else it seems, its gets hard messaging people because i begin thinking why bother, they never respond no matter what I write cant seem to find that winning formula. just for your interest my profile:
Hi, I'm Felix. I'm fun, friendly, easy-going and a bit of a Geek . I've just recently started a new job working as a carer for learning disabilities as part of the town council and I'm also a freelance sculptor, which I would love to do full time.
I would love to meet a kind-hearted woman with a big smile who treats life as an adventure and likes a bit of romance, such as bringing a girl nice flowers just because I can . I can be a bit shy and awkward until you get to know me but I'm worth the effort. I've just started learning to play the guitar and enjoy most kinds of music but especially rock and heavy metal, any favourites?. I'm also a big movie and cinema buff, reading good books, exploring interesting places (recently been to Italy and Amsterdam) and learning new things and discovering new places and people!
Experts claim that most successful relationships that start online are initiated by women. So if you'd like what you see and want to chat send me a message. I hope to hear from you soon, what are you waiting for?
thanks i had a fair bit of help from people online (i'm a regular member of loveshack.org which i use for relationship advice) but the pics that can make or break a profile ive been told.
I found love once, i can find it again 
maybe the real deal this time. now i can afford it with my new job i'm thinking of trying one of the proper dating sites at the start of the year possibly match or e-harmony just to expand my options. wish me luck, any advice or ideas would be great 
and it doesn't much help that I'm unphotogenic 
and that to read it I have to pay to subscribe 
my social life and social circle is small and very quiet (friends only really talk to me when i message them first 