Cousin of My Mother And Husband Issue

[Avarice]

My mother has a cousin who with her husband has a tendency to annoy more than anger me whenever I encounter them. But that might change.

She is an ex primary teacher and the sort that DARES to talk like you are still a primary school kid yourself. The sort that stifles normal conversation by seemingly looking to say black when you say white just for the sake of it. Though seemingly not to those the same age. Could start an argument in an empty room.

Whereas he when he's not starting inane conversation about sport as a former rugby player (when he KNOWS I'm not the slightest bit interested ;as if to imply that's a defect he needs to rectify) is from love of the sound of his own voice in doing after dinner speaking far too found of giving homilies like he's Pa Walton and trying to make deft criticisms with a bordering at times on patronising tone that he seems to think isn't detected. It's also maybe made him get a bit too smart mouthed if he wasn't always.

Plus he's a bit of a cloying goody two shoes. The last time he seriously swore was probably something like 1962 if at all and I suppose he thinks that makes him (them) automatically more virtuous.

They are also too prying about personal matters concerning myself that they have only a superficial understanding of in so far as it is even their slightest business, too forward , too full of their own sense of presumed moral superiority, too bold in attempting to impose their personalities, too certain in their own soundness of judgement generally and especially him about the supposed goodness of human nature when people here have SEEN it from experience with their own eyes differently and are ENTITLED to have a DIFFERENT perspective WHERE it' seems justified.

As if their personal input is unique and pertinent and as if they don't agree with or like something I or anyone else must automatically think we must be wrong or holds our heads in shame.

Don't get me wrong . They are supposedly good people but other than a lack of sufficient respect I think it shows with things that are going on in relation to the health of a surviving parent this demeanour of theirs is starting to come into sharper focus and they are threatening to encroach too much to the point where I think they need a stern warning about it all at this stage in life.

The time for presuming they had a licence to be like that to me passed many moons ago and part of me feels justified in just telling them to go and F*** themselves for that if they just rub me up the wrong way too much .

I've already fully verbally exploded at an Uncle on New Years Eve because he actually asked for it as he made me REALLY ANGRY for some time though I hope it improves the relationship with a clearing of the air.

[misfit]

Know the feeling! Luckily, no one in my family, but I work with loads of them, and my future hubby's friends can be like that too. To be honest I tend to walk out of the room or just humour them in them sense I nod and agree without any feedback. Made me very unpopular with that group of small minded simpletons... but oh well. Learnt you just can't argue with people like that.