How to flirt?
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missmalibu
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How to flirt?
Anyone have any basic flirtin tips for me theres a guy i like but my flirtin is attrocious! its either i cant stop staring at them and talkin to them or i back off completely! tried a few books but i need a serious basics book lol!
Re: How to flirt?
Little books on flirting ought to be banned because quite frankly there are simply a load of ol bullshit. 
The truth is that everyone interacts slightly differently to the extent that any well meaning tips on the matter are almost certainly setting someone up to fail.
In my view flirting is something that just happens (not very often in my case
) and can't really be forced. It becomes even harder when it's someome you're interested in because that's when you come over all shy.
I can flirt all day with female colleagues at work because I know there isn't a chance of anything happening and it's all part of our rapport.. But flirting with strangers is far harder because you worry that you come across as either desperate, a prat or both.
I suppose though.. You need to begin a rapport with small talk, anything mundane just to spark any old random conversation that you can make light of and joke about. As things develop slip in the odd compliment etc etc.
The truth is that everyone interacts slightly differently to the extent that any well meaning tips on the matter are almost certainly setting someone up to fail.
In my view flirting is something that just happens (not very often in my case
) and can't really be forced. It becomes even harder when it's someome you're interested in because that's when you come over all shy.I can flirt all day with female colleagues at work because I know there isn't a chance of anything happening and it's all part of our rapport.. But flirting with strangers is far harder because you worry that you come across as either desperate, a prat or both.
I suppose though.. You need to begin a rapport with small talk, anything mundane just to spark any old random conversation that you can make light of and joke about. As things develop slip in the odd compliment etc etc.
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StuartDotC
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Re: How to flirt?
Just put on a deep sexy voice and say "How yooouuu doin'?" works every time lol. Seriously though I'm probably not the best person to answer this but what the hell I'll try 
I tend to just be as friendly as I can with someone then just maybe start flirting in a jokey kinda way and see how that goes down. sorry I can't really add more to it than that I'm not really known for being the Casanova type though 
I tend to just be as friendly as I can with someone then just maybe start flirting in a jokey kinda way and see how that goes down. sorry I can't really add more to it than that I'm not really known for being the Casanova type though Re: How to flirt?
I don't think your question should be how to flirt as this issent really relevent - the best thing to do really is try to talk to him, get to know him and take things from there.
Or just do the blatent and just go up to him say that you fancy him and if he is intrested - us guys prefer this as its simple and cuts out the impossable of reading people and seeing what they are trying to say (from a dyspraxic point of view)
How do you feel about this / talking to people in genral?
Or just do the blatent and just go up to him say that you fancy him and if he is intrested - us guys prefer this as its simple and cuts out the impossable of reading people and seeing what they are trying to say (from a dyspraxic point of view
)How do you feel about this / talking to people in genral?
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