hi all.

[nat198507]

HI all.
I am in a relationship with a amazing man who I know I am going to spend the rest of my life with unfortunately he has dyspraxcia.

I have decided to join not just for me but so I can understand what its like for him, he gets frustrated a lot and often comes across as being insensitive which is hard for both of us.
We have only been together for 9 months but I know hes the love of my life. We are both 26.
I have a son who absolutely loves my partner but sometimes its like having another child around sometimes.

Sometimes things are so hard because he can be so insensitive and he doesn't realize what he has said wrong and then gets all defensive. He has said a couple of really horrible things and obviously I find that hard to deal with but I know he cant help it and I need to find a way to not let it get to me so much.
I find that when he does upset me that if I explain to him why what he said did hurt it helps him to understand.

I am hes first girlfriend so it is hard for him to know how to act but things are going really well for us both so far.
Its just obviously sometimes its hard for me to understand what its like for him, that's why joining this site is going to help both of us.

I hope to meet others in the same situation and if I make a new friend or 2 along the way that'l be a bonus.

[Kimiann]

Hi,
I have a son who's dyspraxic and so am I. I've watched him struggle with many relationships and had girlfriends who don't even try to understand what he's like. You are wonderful for hanging in there and wanting to understand. I hope one day my son finds someone like you! My hubby is like you, trying to understand, normally he does but he's said sometimes he feels like he's talking to a wall and I miss a lot of body language, which he finds frustrating! I know I get defensive, like your boyfriend, we're trying so hard and like you said, sometimes we don't even know what we've done wrong!! Mostly we laugh about it and hubby is always saying "is this a dyspraxic thing?" or "you're being dyspraxic again" I also say this to my son, it kind of gets us back on line. It's worked with my son since he was old enough to understand about dyspraxia, stops him being one tracked about something. He tends to obsess about stuff.
We've been married 29 years and only recently found out I'm dyspraxic, so knowing has made a big difference to us.

Kim

[Tim G]

I am in a simmiler situation but its the other way round - i am dyspraxic and with somone who isent and really is the compleate oppersit. There are issues with our relationship and at times it can get really bad not just beceuse of my issues but both of our problems . I do understand how fustrating it is and how it is for you and how your partner feels.

The thing really is about being there for him as much as he is there for you as clearly he really is, comming on hear is really good as well as you can see the simmiler problems and how others have coped with it and also to relate and understand more about dyspraxicia.