family

[calla]

hey im so unhappy at the moment my family my brother has fallen out with my sister she got him a job in her work he was let go and that was 3 years ago hes says she screwed him over he doesnt want anything to do with her but my family are being torn apart by this my brother is full of hate anger and taking it out on my mum and dad who are in there sixties my brother is 25 yes 25 my sister tried to build bridges with him by making him godfather to her son whos ten months but he doesnt see him v often and still makes strange. when my sister comes down he stays in his room my mum just keeps making excuses for him there afraid hes going to top himself if they push him over the edge hes very angry and agressive and has pushed everyone away im scared one day hes going to go to far i know hes my brother but ive got to the stage where i dnt like him and dont like being around him hes so full of haterd my mum thinks it might be aspergers he cures so much at the dinner table ive stopped coming down at the time hes not a nice person im stuggling myself with mental health issues myself what do u guys think? he trying to make me feel guilty everyone fault but his and he blames my sister for his unemployment?

[Evasura]

OMG! that sounds like the story of my family. My brother is exactly the same. I am fortunate that I don't live with them, but as you say, he is making everyone's lives around him very miserable. Really, I don't have an answer, but try to ignore his accusations and try to get on with your lives (though as I say it's easy to say when I am not living around it in a daily basis). Not sure there's much you can do. Try yoga for yourself and for your brother...I don't know. I ignore mine and while he stays ion his room he is not annoying anyone else

[Tim G]

Thats a bad situation - it sounds like you brother has issues with somthing which has happoned or has aspergers, it sounds like it by the way he is being and reacting to things.

Your not alone with your family issues - I have had major issues with my familie and getting them to understand my mental issues and dyspraxia etc, but they just don't. I have given up trying and we are just trying to avoid the issue as it just isent getting anyware but it isent without its problems.

My advice would be to try and see if you can get some help for him as clearly somthing is wrong and needs to be sorted before things get worse.

[Evasura]

Well, for that, he needs to acknowledge that he has a problem. Does he? If not, how do you help him? please tell me how

[Tim G]

Well i am no phyc but it seams as though things arnt quite right - eather he has a problem which is causing this or there is a lot going on he needs to deal with / understand.

The point is that you can suggest to somone to get help but its only untill they volenteer them selves to get help when things will change. The best thing you can do is try to get him aware of whats going on, the problems caused and hopefully he should see that he needs to sort it out.