Romantic relationships

[Little Miss Anxious]

If it is better being by yourself and just being happy by yourself then what is the point of being in a romantic and physical relatioship??? I worry that I may chase men away coz I like to text men daily but mostly at night coz It is more exciting and I also love getting loads of complintful and affectionate texts from a man everyday and that's exactly what my second boyfriend did until we both ran out of credit but some men don't like texting that often and some do and then they change so how am I supposed to know if they like women texting alot without them telling me??? I can still do my own thing and my problem is that when I meet a guy or I date a guy after I get to know him and like him as a person I start getting emotionally attached to him and when he doesn't contact my self-esteem goes down coz when I do hear from him I get really happy and a wee bit excited but I don't want to be that way so how do I stop getting attached to a man like that??? I want my own happyness not him??? I love the feeling of being inlove, kisses, passion, having company, cuddlying laughing and playing around with a man so why avoid that wonderful experience if you love romance and company like me??? Will I find a man who stays with me long-term and doesn't regret being with me or change his mind about being with me??? I do want a man but I want some friends first and do things solo for a while until I am settled and in my career then when I can be my own love I can love another person who has his own love too. wb

[keiraknightleyfan27]

I wouldn't know much about romantic relationships, but I think that you have to be really confident in yourself before you persue one like Dan said. I also think that you have to be willing to put yourself out there and be brave. If you aren't willing to be brave then you won't take the leap and go out to get that guy/girl. I think it is hard for us girls, especially when we are shy and stuff. But, I can also see how hard it must be for guys because they often get rejected. I was watching the movie "Definitely, Maybe" and found this is a great example of how hard it is for both girls and guys in relationships. It's hard, but you have to decide if it is worth it for you. I rather like being who I am right now, but in the future I would like someone to share my life with who is more than a friend.

[sarahlouise22]

I havent had any real proper romantic relationships, my longest relationship was 2 months.... i was and i suppose am quite insecure... i was texting him quite alot .... and could be quite impaitent when he didnt reply straight away... i always had in my mind that i wasnt good enough for him.. and he would end up going off me....even though he was abit of a plank anyway for a nicer term to use...he didnt give me any reason to trust him...little things he did that built up... which he didnt understand like... cancelling dates, not being reliable etc seems petty but hey. I have had many dates since.... alot havent been good...one guy really scared me. So all in all it doesnt help me for future dates. Is there something wrong with me?

[Evasura]

If it helps u, I've never had any romantic relationships either. And I guess that in a forum with some people with communication and very likely also emotional difficulties, I am not the only one...hope so...am I? anyone?...please?...and I do get paranoid as well...well, about friends... Then again, not the only one here (please anyone say u get paranoid too). I like to think that there are more things in life than having romance. Not sure this helps. Having a bad day 2. ?

[Evasura]

just trying to cheer it up

[Habit]

I have had many dates since.... alot havent been good...one guy really scared me. So all in all it doesnt help me for future dates. Is there something wrong with me?

Sounds like you're dating the wrong people perhaps?

[Habit]

just trying to cheer it up

Chin up, us Londoners can always pull through!

[agsiul]

I've only had a few relationships and the more I look at the work that other people put into them, or don't, I think I couldn't cope with that and with work as well, too exhausting and really need space and like my own company. Would go for the wrong kind as well. Would seem nice but would love to play games and mess with my head. Not the kind of person I'd be interested in being with though it would take me a while to see it.

[sarahlouise22]

Sounds like you're dating the wrong people perhaps?[/quote]


Yeah maybe.. but then again i dont know if im playing apart in my lack of romantic relationships (or shall i say guys keeping there interest in me etc)

[agsiul]

Could be too. I know that that would be a problem area for me

[SirDaveofDanger]

Aparently I was very romantic, but due to my (current) ex dealing with some OCD issues we are on a break whilst she decides if she wants to go back with me. I hope she decides to go back with me and there was (again aparently) quite a lot of sexual tension between us at a flat party we both happened to be at last weekend.

[sarahlouise22]

I just dont know what to do so i dont ruin any chances of a potential relationship.. id loved to find that special person in my life this year.... and would hate to spoil it when and if i do find someone i really like

[littlemissbump14]

Perhaps we all need to date each other? As in fellow dyspraxics? Who better to understand all our fun little quirks? Giant game of blind date anyone? lol.

I have had big issues in the past, but i'm still young, so I try and look on the upside. I recently met someone new and his mum has dyspraxia, whilst he is dyslexic with aspergers. So far this seems like a plus! He 'gets' me. It took us 2 dates to work out that neither could tell how much the other liked them, as we can't read body language! We have now agreed to just be bold and blunt. Not especially romantic and graceful perhaps, but effective so far! (after only 2 dates though there is time enough for it to go belly up!)

Just my 2 pennies worth there!

x

[Brad]

My pennyworth...

I've had two "and a bit" relationships. The first with a girl I met online via a music forum, back in the early days of forming relationships online, 2001. NO IDEA she liked me, but on MSN a mutual friend kept dropping hints. The girl herself finally said something like "why do you think I can't wait for you to sign in?" or words to that effect. She wasn't English and didn't even live here. She flew over and we spent two weeks togther where lots of things finally happened... you get my drift. The distance was just silly though and as I'm very senstive to comments and criticism things we split via various misunderstandings.

My second girlfriend was more local. We were actually together two years, though moved together in really as a matter of "nowhere else to go" as she had to leave her student house. Moody woman who due to my heart condition called me a "cripple"... (I was seriously ill and out of work waiting for surgery... totally fixed now!) I'd never heard of dyspraxia at that point and she was ALWAYS picking me up on things such as eating, walking funny etc. ("You always seem to be somewhere else!") She's married someone now, the poor so and so.

The "and a bit" is a friend I got close to a few times but nothing more. She's also with someone now and they get on really well whereas I just seem to stress her for some reason.

Sometimes I'm happen alone, sometimes not. I've had lots of dates in the last few years but they never seem to go to second dates. I'm not given the chance. Nerves certainly show but you can't judge someone on a first meeting.

Oh well, nothing ventured...

Creative librarian seeks dyspraxic similar (librarian not essential!) Yorkshire/North. Apply within...

[looks around expectantly for queue to form]

[Philip]

Not really romantic relationship, been asked out twice, but did not feel ready for a relationship at the time.

When I was on holiday last year in Egypt with my parents, one of the entertainment team took a shine to me, she wanted to know whether I had a girlfriend back at home, wanted one etc. A couple of days later she asked my parents could I marry you son.