Dyspraxic Adults

but at the same time there is another part of me saying why settle down with someone,

I have had enough of this place, and want to break free! and live somewhere else, maybe for a couple of years, maybe for good.

as if things don't improve on the relationship side of things, then that is just what I think will be happening in the next 2 years or so, is I end up waving goodbye to the UK.

feeling very lonely right now, have been emailing a girl I like and she hasn't emailed since the start of june. Why? I am doomed to a lifetime of lonelyness I can't seem to keep relationships going and they get bored of me very quickly and it's all my fault

have you tried sending her a few jokes etc? as they tend to break the silence a bit. sometimes it can be due to work, and other pressures.

I didn't hear from my female friend in America for a couple of months due to her computer packing up, and not being able to afford the internet costs, as a person living in the property decided that he didn't want to pay for it any longer.

so there are quite a few reasons, that might not be your fault Gwhizz, don't take it too hard, and don't go saying things in e-mails to really put her off you, and she might tell you why when she next contacts you. just keep sending an e-mail every so often to make sure she doesn't loose your e-mail address, like once a week, or once month.

good luck, and hopefully she will contact you

I feel lonely all the time, even when in relationships, always feel cut off and distant, I find it hard to open up to people and express myself, like no one understands me at all.

It's made even worse when I am alone, often feels like there is no future at all, I guess I suffer badly from low self esteem, a low opinion of myself. I jaust find life to hard sometimes

NickC wrote:I feel lonely all the time, even when in relationships, always feel cut off and distant, I find it hard to open up to people and express myself, like no one understands me at all.

It's made even worse when I am alone, often feels like there is no future at all, I guess I suffer badly from low self esteem, a low opinion of myself. I jaust find life to hard sometimes

I am a brand new poster who just wants to say I am so glad I happened on this forum when I looked on the Wikipedia.org entry for Dyspraxia. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dyspraxia. I finally feel I have somewhere I can open up to and everyone feels like I do.

I cannot remember which one but I went to either the RVI or the Newcastle General about it but the Doc was hesitant to pigeonhole me. Put a label on me. I have felt the same since then. Like people want to turn a blind eye to it.

It gets me more re the issue of relations with other people. I feel like I to am not really understood properly. I also suffer from low self esteem. Both of which really seems to affect peoples view of me.

Everyone gets lonley at times but some people hide it better than others.

the holidays are the worst for lonely people

Depends what you define as lonely.

I consider myself lonely even though I am still living with my parents. Because I have no friends or girlfriends to see.

WTCCFan wrote:Depends what you define as lonely.

I consider myself lonely even though I am still living with my parents. Because I have no friends or girlfriends to see.

see i would agree with you at uni i have friends but still feel lonely tho there are people around me and the same at home really as there is only my parents here

becky1986 wrote:see i would agree with you at uni i have friends but still feel lonely tho there are people around me and the same at home really as there is only my parents here

Strange ain't it???

I mean for me true companionship seem to be defined by the "L" word. Love.

It is, as you know, difficult certainly for me to explain, but I think what I am trying to say is, and putting it another way, even though both have an element of 'love', love for a parent or friend is different to that of a partner. Love for a partner is deeper and more intimate.

So, with love in mind, if given a choice between being with a partner and being with a parent..how many would choose being with a parent? I suspect not many. Many would be no doubt so much happier if the other person is someone they are able to love as a partner (wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend) rather than love as a parent.

So even though I am neither lonely or alone I would feel so much happier if my companion was a girlfriend or wife.

I'm beginning to realise there are always ways out of loneliness. There are good people in my life who care for me and whom I've taken for granted for too long. To many people are taken for granted. There are other people who live lonely existances, with social skills as underdeveloped as mine or even worse. I'm beginning to do what I first did when I began to make friends which is to befriend other lonely people, even if they're not 'cool' according to the crowd and to help them to be included. It's not about pity, I've been there myself, and the fact is a person is a person. There's no need for so many people to be left out.

I always feel lonely,it seems no one understands me at all. when i'm in a social situation
my brain just freezes up, and i really don't know what to say, or i end up saying something
really inane, stupid or boring . It drives me crazy, so i can really sympathise with all you
lonely people out there. i hope it makes you feel better to know that your not the only one