Dyspraxic Adults

I'm a single Dyspraxic aged 27 from Norfolk.

Creative wrote:I'm a single Dyspraxic aged 27 from Norfolk.

Whereabouts in Norfolk? I grew up in Norwich.

Wymondham, which is quite near Norwich

Just read this post and had thought, any of you clever peeps out their any good at web development? cos I can see an opening for an ND meeting/dating site.
Every other niche group in society seems to have one so why not NDs? theirs obviously a demand for it.

No I'm afraid I'm no good at web development but I like the idea Hopefully someone else is.

I'd have a crack at it myself but I've just started my final project for uni so work load is gonna get a little insane .... in fact if id have read this thread sooner I could have put it forward for my finals . Oh well to late now.

im single, have been pretty much always, only had one relationship where the girl basically just used me to boost her own self esteem and treated me like crap and im currently in love with a girl who when I told her said she didn't like me like that and is now ignoring me and has deleted me on facebook, better still she lives right up stairs from me at Uni. idk, part of me thinks I should just give up on ever finding anyone who actually wants to be with me.

SciFiBoy wrote:im single, have been pretty much always, only had one relationship where the girl basically just used me to boost her own self esteem and treated me like crap and im currently in love with a girl who when I told her said she didn't like me like that and is now ignoring me and has deleted me on facebook, better still she lives right up stairs from me at Uni. idk, part of me thinks I should just give up on ever finding anyone who actually wants to be with me.

You're not alone in feeling that way - if that makes it any easier even though I suspect it still feels very raw. Hope the girl who rejected you experiences some similarly bad karma to make her 'wake up/grow up'. Just because someone doesn't like you as much as you like them puts them in a position of 'power' The least they can do is be nice and appreciate being liked even if they don't want any sort of relationship.

Surround yourself with friends and avoid this girl but try to be civil when you can't.

Tom

Tom fod wrote:

SciFiBoy wrote:im single, have been pretty much always, only had one relationship where the girl basically just used me to boost her own self esteem and treated me like crap and im currently in love with a girl who when I told her said she didn't like me like that and is now ignoring me and has deleted me on facebook, better still she lives right up stairs from me at Uni. idk, part of me thinks I should just give up on ever finding anyone who actually wants to be with me.

You're not alone in feeling that way - if that makes it any easier even though I suspect it still feels very raw. Hope the girl who rejected you experiences some similarly bad karma to make her 'wake up/grow up'. Just because someone doesn't like you as much as you like them puts them in a position of 'power' The least they can do is be nice and appreciate being liked even if they don't want any sort of relationship.

Surround yourself with friends and avoid this girl but try to be civil when you can't.

Tom

idk, I don't blame her, why would she want to be with a loser like me anyway, I mean it's probably offensive to her that someone as pathetic as me likes her so no wonder she is ignoring me and stuff. I talk to my friends and is okay but I feel awful as soon as alone again so idk what to do atm.

Sounds like your self esteem (like mine has been) is running too low again! I quite intensely dislike the word loser though I'm not a fan of winner either. I know I'd be the same if I'd encountered the same situation but don't beat yourself up about it. It is she who is the loser.

I've pretty much no relationship experience with girls/women or ladies and I'm 36 and really cannot reccommend any advice I give on 'pulling' expect try to be patient even though you too quite likely feel time is running out. It does bother me a lot Also I'm visually impaired (VI) so can't ever drive and have to rely on others/get the bus because I live in rural Gloucestershire but have not had courage/inclination to move out of home yet. (You have!) although I do seize on opportunities to socialise whenever I can!

I try to remember that many others are much worse off (not good when I beat myself up because I worry I'm ungrateful). I have work (75% of working age VI people do not not sure what figure is for Dyspraxic people is) though not sure all this new kit recommended following my assessment and the revelation that i have 'Dyspraxic tendencies' will help as already have own strategies/set in my ways! I often over analyse and worry about rules be it dating and relationships or anything else that 'society's' rules seem to decree nowadays. Don't know if you've tried CBT but writing stuff down may help to rationalise stuff though any strategy you might have is equally valid. It's a sod but sadly there is too much choice and no right or wrong answers which to me is often doubly confusing.

Try to concentrate on your friendships and having a good time being single to take your mind off any troubling thoughts. Do stuff you enjoy with friends you trust and give yourself time without rushing yourself. Don't be afraid to be yourself and avoid the temptation that you must change yourself to be what you feel others think you should be like.

Hope this helps in some way and is of some comfort. I know I've waffled a fairish bit!

All the best

Tom

I have been single for 4 years now. I have recently found out that the girl I really like has a boyfriend :'(. It would be really nice to meet a dyspraxic girl as we would understand each other more and be able to cope with feelings better. So if you are a girl and are sweet and often over emotional and sensitive and affectionate then come and chat with me . Even if there is no romance/sex it would just be nice to have some female dyspraxic companionship and a friend that understands and has similar difficulties. So hopefully there is a nice girl out there who is dyspraxic and lives near leeds . I am 23 and although quite skinny I am very fit as I do archery and gym classes most days.

I had a girlfriend for two years from being 17 to 19 but she turned out to be a lesbian which pretty much destroyed me. But I am all free from emotional trauma and happy with my life. happy being single and waiting fir the right girl. Someone who likes me because of who I am, and not just because i am there and available or they are insecure (like most of my relationships).

Everyone I seem to fancy seem to be taken or a lesbian, it is so annoying. it must be something to do with body language. i am sure that girls are much nicer to you when they have boyfriends/girlfriends already. Single girls just give off the wrong vibe and often don't seem as friendly.

Hey

We girls arent all that bad if any one wants a chat I am avaiable
Racha

im single and new to here

Might as well put myself out there! I'm Jordan, 18, I'm from Sheffield and haven't been in a relationship in a while tbh! If you're interested or just want to talk, then send me a pm

Hey I'm a 21 year old girl living in Scotland if anyone is around there