Dyspraxic Adults

Agh a guy at uni has just been sick all over myclean washing. I want him to clean it up and pay for the cost but I don't want to make him and the other people my roomate has invited round angry and think I am no fun.

I think you should get your roommate away from his friends for a few moments and tell him about it; you're more likely to get a rational response from him if you can get him away from his drunken friends at a time when he is reasonably sober. If you bring the subject up when they are drinking/watching the football together, they'll probably just think such behavior is funny.

If that doesn't work, try doing the vacuuming really loudly the next day when they're all hungover. They'll agree to anything if you promise to stop making a noise

I agree that the binge drinking culture is very dangerous- university is advertised more as one big night out than it is a place of study! Although I like the odd drink and enjoy my cider, this whole attitude of coming-to-uni-purely-for-the-student-loan-that-will-enable-you-to-go-out-and-get-wasted-every-night-for-at-least-the-first-year is ridiculous- it activley encourages ppl to get in debt by spending loads of money on socialising (student debt of up to 10 grand is comepltely acceptable nowadays) and gives us students a bad name- the hard working student juggling two part time jobs and a degree is suddenly branded a lethargic bar fly because of the actions of 99% of the university population!!!

Louise- I reckon you should talk to your roommate (you have to share a ROOM with someone in your halls?! Or are they a flatmate?) and tell them that althoygh you have no problems with them having a good time, they have to be considerate of others and respect other ppls feelings, opinions (eg like not wanting to binge drink) and property (in relation to your washing). Is this ina flat or halls? If its halls, talk to the porter/ warden. Unfortunatley, unis can be full of inconsiderate twits like your roomie- but by the time you get to 2nd/ 3rd year, most of these idiots will have either left or been thrown out. Just remember that you are the bigger person here and by far the more mature one!

Its ok as everyoen apologised.. it was not at all my roomates fault, she didn;t realsiehe got drunk already... he cleaned it up and she cleaned itup mroe later... I am still nto wild on there being sick though! but thats eems to be a common thing here.

Hi Louise, I think that you are an incredibly tolerant person, if that had been my washing that someone had been sick all over, I would still be mad as hell and looking for a new place to live. Drunks are allways really apologatic after the event, in the cold sober light of the morning, but rarely actually do something about their behaviour next time, while drunk. I lived most of my early life with my mother who is an alcoholic and i know just how confusing emotionally it can be to live with the extremes of drunken behaviour and the next mornings regrets. The only thing i can add to this Louise, is not to take it personaly and to think that you have to be accepting of this behaviour.

I'm rather with Nick on this one. When people are drunk and have done something daft they shrug it off all too easily the next morning and yes then they have little reason not to repeat it again. I think I also would have been absolutely livid. Anyone messing with my stuff is always a serious business, and disrepecting it in that way certainly isn't on. I don't know exactly the best way of tackling it with those concerned, but at the very least making sure they're aware of the severity of the event.

eeewwww sick on your clean washing!! totally grose. i hope he was grovellingly apologetic and thoroughly ashamed of himself - not good.

I read a scary article which seemed to suggest that more than 2 glasses of wine was a binge!! can you binge every night? oh dear but seriously I am appauled by the behaviour I have seen my people out to get drunk - I just fail to see why anyone would want to do that ...shout horrible things , be sick in the street , break windows and run away.

I like a good drink as much as the next girl but to drink until you can barely walk or talk is stupid and demeaning and dangerous. ahem do excuse me I'll climb down off my soap box now

im not a great drinker, and never have been. i claim its becasue i have a lack of control as it is without needing to drink however to my sisters amusement its only when i have been drinking that i can walk in a straight line! anyone else find this?

Ha!!! Thats so funny cause my friends used to allways say that about me! Im actually one of the few people who dance better after a couple of drinks (really, Iv seen video evidence). I used to drink loads as a teenager, its the culture I grew up in, I did all the stupid things every1 said they wouldnt. I dont drink much any more cause I have quite a high tolerance so I find I have to drink far more than is healthy to feel the affects, plus since I got diagnosed I notice all the little ways dyspraxia gets worse when Im drinking, despite the fact that I can walk a straight line!

I don't like having a lot to drink either and don't understand why people drink till there passed out. I do like the odd drink and having a good time but not till I spew I had an experiance when I was in this group of people hiking in the derbyshire hills and we were in this homely little cottage and this guy who I now loathe made a great nice bloke do a mooney in front of us I seen people paralitic on the floor passed out wanting their stomach pumped. I'd like to go to university but when I see people my age I think I am more mature and if I do go out I more often then not drink fizzy drinks and say I'm buzzing off the sugar!!!

i cant stand people that drink until they arent in control, i just see the point. im about to go to uni and im a bit worried becasue it does sounds like everyone goes out everynight and gets drunk. i know i shouldnt feel pressured etc and i dont mind a few drinks but every night until you cant remember waht u did?

I have had loads of people tell me I'm more co-ordinated when I drink. Although this is less true now I think its because I lack co-ordination so I'm then more self concious which make it worse.

I can't drink my co-orination is always the first thing to go, i look like i'm after 20 pints when i've only had one

as for myself, then I have only ever been totally drunk once (best nights kip I ever had on the livingroom floor!!), it was my birthday though.

but still woken up drunk, so I went to bed for a few more hours, then finally started sobbering up on my walk to my mothers work!

as for other times, then I only drink when I feel like, or socially, but if I buy cans for myself, then I usually find the best b4 date has past by months.

due to the fact I haven't felt like a drink, personally I cannot drink every night, or even once a week.

so I tend to just usually have a soft drink which usually costs more when me, and friends goto a pub.

it doesn't affect me how much my friends drink infront of me, as long as they don't go OTT with me there.

at the end of the day I would much rather pay for better things in life, than a good night out!

I always end up being the sober one at parties and get togethers and making sure everyone is safe and get home safely...