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[Little Miss Anxious]

"What do you do men to keep a fellow interested in you if you start to be a bit clingy around him because you haven't seen him for a month, u sent him credit and he doesn't contact you often like he promised/. wB

[Little Miss Anxious]

" Hi guys! What can you do to keep your boyfriend interested in you when you realiste that being 5months away from each other has influenced his girlfriend to be clingy and that girlfriend is me. He sent me a text saying Ya thats because you are too clingy and you treat me like a dog giving me commands.But he said that text wasn't for me it was ment for somebody else. How do I find out if he's lying? If i lose him how do I get him back? because I couldn't bare to lose him. The last loving text he sent me was goognite then I miss you too and that text was sent to me last Saturday. WB

[Creative]

I think you need to split up from this man. He doesn't seem to be doing you any good. All your posts sound like life is very difficult and stressful for you at the moment. If you were not with him any more you mght feel better.

[cat27]

I certainly don't think it's clingy to miss, or want to see more of your boyfriend when you
haven't seen him for 5 months. If he doesn't understand, or feel this way too, then to be
honest it sounds like you have already lost him. You say he claims not to have meant to
send this text to you, well did he say who it was intended for? When you ask him make
sure you are face to face, and watch his expressions, you will be able to tell if he is lying
because he may
1) avoid looking directly into your eyes
2) play with his hands (wring them)
3) go red or look aggitated (he may not be able to sit still)
4) pause too long before he answers (he may be thinking of a good answer)

It doesn't sound good though, so my advice is if he is lying (which it sounds like) pretty much the same
as creative(the post before me) let him go. you sound a nice girl, i am sure there are much nicer guys
out there who will treat you with the respect that you deserve.

[Little Miss Anxious]

No I seen him around the summer and I can only speak to him by ear as we talk on the phone but now I haven't seen him for 2 or 3 wks recently and I text and ring him often you see and expect him to spare some time for me. He had an old friend who he sees at weekends now.

I certainly don't think it's clingy to miss, or want to see more of your boyfriend when you
haven't seen him for 5 months. If he doesn't understand, or feel this way too, then to be
honest it sounds like you have already lost him. You say he claims not to have meant to
send this text to you, well did he say who it was intended for? When you ask him make
sure you are face to face, and watch his expressions, you will be able to tell if he is lying
because he may
1) avoid looking directly into your eyes
2) play with his hands (wring them)
3) go red or look aggitated (he may not be able to sit still)
4) pause too long before he answers (he may be thinking of a good answer)

It doesn't sound good though, so my advice is if he is lying (which it sounds like) pretty much the same
as creative(the post before me) let him go. you sound a nice girl, i am sure there are much nicer guys
out there who will treat you with the respect that you deserve.

[becky]

If he has a friend that he sees at weekends, then why can't he see you? Why doesn't he introduce you to his friend? This guy sounds like he is giving you the run around, and you deserve so much better. If he doesn't want to be with you, he should tell you to your face and not keep stringing you around like this. Don't contact him, socialise with friends, ignore him for a while and if he doesn't come running, then there is nothing you can do. People respond to confidence and self-respect, if you don't have much of either, then fake it, and soon you'll start believing in yourself. No one deserves to be treated the way he has been treating you, you should be outragedthat he even dares to behave this way towards you rather than being stressed and anxious about it.

I had a really bad and toxic relationship with my ex, and it left me with very little self-confidence and I wanted him back desperately, even after we had been broken up for a really long time. When you've been rejected or treated badly by someone, you can believe that it's your fault, that somehow you're not good enough or they would have treated you differently. Mostly its about self respect. If they respect you enough, they won't play games, because if they did you wouldn't let them get away with it. Also when you think you're going to lose a relationship, sometimes instinctively we can try to claw onto it, even though we're damaging ourselves.

In short, Little Miss Anxious; as creative said, you seem like a really nice girl, and you shouldn't get so hung up on this guy. In short you really do deserve better, you want someone who will want to be with you all of the time, not just when he can fit you in. Life is too short to be wasting it on idiots.

[Little Miss Anxious]

Is it true that there is a match for everyone? Can you have the perfect relationship? Can you make love last? wb

[Liz944]

Personally I don't think there is any such thing as a perfect relationship... a relationship will only last for the time both parties are happy to work with each other to solve their problems and differences, once this fails the relationship is on the downhill slope and will eventualy fail...

[WTCCFan]

Is it true that there is a match for everyone?

I don't think so. A load of suspersticious nonsense designed to raise peoples hopes. I have been single since I have been old enough to have a relationship. If their was a match for me she (no matter how blind she clearly would be) would have come to me.