Hi, well I have a few questions, regarding my experiences with dyspraxia, and things I have started to notice.
1. Driving - Yes I know it’s possible that people with dyspraxia do drive but is there a way of testing my co-ordination? I went to the doctors and asked him but all he said was to try playing computer games, go go-karting or just try in my dad’s car.
2. Social - I find it really hard to make friends, I used to go out a lot but found I had problems with regards to alcohol. Its odd because if I drink at home alone I am controlled, relaxed but as soon as I get into a noisy place like a bar or night club I go wild and drink way over my limit, and make a fool of myself just to fit in. Just to be what I think is normal. For the past 3 years I have just stopped at home, and sometimes feel like the world is passing me by?
3. Psychological Stuff - my self esteem on some days its ok, on days when I feel I have achieved something. I tend to cry, and get upset easily. I don’t let things go either, say if someone looked at me funny 3 years ago I will remember that and use that as a reason to hate them. I have violent thoughts about people I don’t like, and can’t seem to let them go. I day dream a lot. When I dream at night I don’t remember what I dreamt.
4. Organisation - I can quote most of my favourite film and TV; I can quote most of spaced and withnail and I but I forget what I am doing. For instance I just made myself a cup of coffee when what I really wanted was hot chocolate! My thoughts are all jumbled up most of the time. My brain sometimes runs on windows 3.1! If I feel I have nothing to do on a morning I won’t get out of bed?
Lol ok so there is a lot there, sorry if it’s a bit of a rant..... I do that too! My handwriting was poor, but nowadays is not too bad, it’s just I find the other sides of dyspraxia hard to deal with.
Apart from this is am a nice guy, I love films, TV, cricket, watching sport on TV, computer games and generally having fun. Who do I ask to get help with dealing with my dyspraxia?
Shepo
My Dyspraxia Problems
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Re: My Dyspraxia Problems
here is what I done to either learn or change thing,
1. Driving - when I was about 13, I went to the Isle of Wight, and went on the arcades, I especially liked driving games, and come across a game called Hard Driving, with clutch, and gear stick, ok so it was very 80's style 3d driving sim, then a year or so later, found it in a local bowling alley, and spent my pocket money on it every week, and did get really good at it, go-karting was another thing I used to like doing a lot, but don't feel that go-karting really teaches you much, whereas Hard Driving did for me.
then when it came to actual driving, then I had already learned how to use the clutch, and gear stick, so never had any dilemmas with that at all, the only thing that did feel weird, but in a good way was actually being in control of a moving vehicle.
I would suggest private ground with the owners permission first, or somewhere really quiet, as it means you can concerntrate on having the vehicle under your control.
by the time I was learning to drive I was nervous of other traffic, as didn't know how to read what they are going to do, (still hard to do some 13 years on though!) but I am more in control of a car, and know how to do a proper emergancy stop, as taught it as part of my lgv driving lessons.
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2. Social - I find it really hard to make friends, (making friends I do find the hardest, I think it is the knowing how to get a conversation started), like with the internet, when I am up to it, I can start a conversation on chat, and keep it going, then there are other times I think how on earth?
as with alcohol, then I do drink but tend not to do it very often, alcohol is a weird thing though, I think it is the atmosphere especially with family or friends, then you start to enjoy it, and then that makes you drink more.
I really had problems keeping up on how much my cousins were drinking, I wouldn't even bother, on the one night, I had my grandfather on to me every 2 seconds it seemed like to have a drink of my pint, and yes, I did order the drink, but no, I didn't feel like knocking it back in 5 minutes either.
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3. Psychological Stuff - I don’t let things go either, say if someone looked at me funny 3 years ago I will remember that and use that as a reason to hate them. (yes, I kind of fit into that quote as well, and trying to overcome it later is even harder, even if it was a look).
abut the only day dreaming I do now is the sleeping type! due to my sleeping pattern changing faster than the Welsh Weather!! most of my dreams I don't remember, unless they get to such a point where you want to know how the dream goes, but you need the bathroom, or something else disturbs the dream.
like peoples faces you never met, places you never been, events that happen (good or bad) even though you never told anyone, until it happens, and somehow that will stick in my mind for years.
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4. Organisation - my worst habit, is I will walk into my flat, lock the door with the key, go straight into the kitchen put the kettle on, switch my pc on, and remember to put my keys in their usual place, but then remember, I haven't got my keys in my hand anymore, and then hunt high, and low looking for them.
My brain sometimes runs on windows 3.1! for it's time then windows 3.1 was a brilliant software package!! I remember ms-dos v2.something was the only thing my father had on his first pc. I didn't like the change to windows 95, as I used to use paintbrush a lot for my artistic side! and so using paint, then didn't know you could change the size of the picture, as it is only little hidden dots on the screen. plus the fact the newer my pc's became, the newer the windows versions, and the more unreliable the pc's became, until I could actually find out that it was rubbish drivers given out with the things like graphics cards, sound cards, motherboards. etc.
which when I got myself internet connection last year then it meant I could look for all of these things, and get a reliable computer.
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5. Who do I ask to get help with dealing with my dyspraxia? as far as I am aware, there is very little, or no support for dyspraxia once outside education. I don't know what the support is like inside education.
1. Driving - when I was about 13, I went to the Isle of Wight, and went on the arcades, I especially liked driving games, and come across a game called Hard Driving, with clutch, and gear stick, ok so it was very 80's style 3d driving sim, then a year or so later, found it in a local bowling alley, and spent my pocket money on it every week, and did get really good at it, go-karting was another thing I used to like doing a lot, but don't feel that go-karting really teaches you much, whereas Hard Driving did for me.
then when it came to actual driving, then I had already learned how to use the clutch, and gear stick, so never had any dilemmas with that at all, the only thing that did feel weird, but in a good way was actually being in control of a moving vehicle.
I would suggest private ground with the owners permission first, or somewhere really quiet, as it means you can concerntrate on having the vehicle under your control.
by the time I was learning to drive I was nervous of other traffic, as didn't know how to read what they are going to do, (still hard to do some 13 years on though!) but I am more in control of a car, and know how to do a proper emergancy stop, as taught it as part of my lgv driving lessons.
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2. Social - I find it really hard to make friends, (making friends I do find the hardest, I think it is the knowing how to get a conversation started), like with the internet, when I am up to it, I can start a conversation on chat, and keep it going, then there are other times I think how on earth?
as with alcohol, then I do drink but tend not to do it very often, alcohol is a weird thing though, I think it is the atmosphere especially with family or friends, then you start to enjoy it, and then that makes you drink more.
I really had problems keeping up on how much my cousins were drinking, I wouldn't even bother, on the one night, I had my grandfather on to me every 2 seconds it seemed like to have a drink of my pint, and yes, I did order the drink, but no, I didn't feel like knocking it back in 5 minutes either.
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3. Psychological Stuff - I don’t let things go either, say if someone looked at me funny 3 years ago I will remember that and use that as a reason to hate them. (yes, I kind of fit into that quote as well, and trying to overcome it later is even harder, even if it was a look).
abut the only day dreaming I do now is the sleeping type! due to my sleeping pattern changing faster than the Welsh Weather!! most of my dreams I don't remember, unless they get to such a point where you want to know how the dream goes, but you need the bathroom, or something else disturbs the dream.
like peoples faces you never met, places you never been, events that happen (good or bad) even though you never told anyone, until it happens, and somehow that will stick in my mind for years.
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4. Organisation - my worst habit, is I will walk into my flat, lock the door with the key, go straight into the kitchen put the kettle on, switch my pc on, and remember to put my keys in their usual place, but then remember, I haven't got my keys in my hand anymore, and then hunt high, and low looking for them.
My brain sometimes runs on windows 3.1! for it's time then windows 3.1 was a brilliant software package!! I remember ms-dos v2.something was the only thing my father had on his first pc. I didn't like the change to windows 95, as I used to use paintbrush a lot for my artistic side! and so using paint, then didn't know you could change the size of the picture, as it is only little hidden dots on the screen. plus the fact the newer my pc's became, the newer the windows versions, and the more unreliable the pc's became, until I could actually find out that it was rubbish drivers given out with the things like graphics cards, sound cards, motherboards. etc.
which when I got myself internet connection last year then it meant I could look for all of these things, and get a reliable computer.
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5. Who do I ask to get help with dealing with my dyspraxia? as far as I am aware, there is very little, or no support for dyspraxia once outside education. I don't know what the support is like inside education.
Mike
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robyn
I never let anything go either,although I dont personally feel this is related to dyspraxia for me.
I cant drive, and cant imagine that I ever will beable to, although I may try at some point. The best way to try is to book lesson with a driving teacher who specialises in disabilities, then ask their honest opinion. Dont feel bad if you cant ever drive, lots of us cant. and what money you save on lessons and a car etc you can budget for buses, taxis and trains.
my organisation and memory is exactly the same, I often boil the kettle then by the time I member that I wanted a cup of tea the kettle is cold again, but yet specific things I can member incredibly well.
I dont have many issues with social stuff, although I generally avoid drinking situations now. I often feel like the world is passing me by too, although god knows why cause I never stop running around, but the truth is our lives are our lives and we dont need to be mesuring them along the same lines as any other person out there. find out what you really value and stick with that, the rest isnt going to matter in the decades to come.
I dont think there is anywhere you can go for help with dyspraxia, unless its really really sever and you need signed off and then can get benifits, or if you have severe coordination probs that you can get physio for, I dont think there is anything else. You could try checking out danda though, they may have more relevant info.
good luck
I cant drive, and cant imagine that I ever will beable to, although I may try at some point. The best way to try is to book lesson with a driving teacher who specialises in disabilities, then ask their honest opinion. Dont feel bad if you cant ever drive, lots of us cant. and what money you save on lessons and a car etc you can budget for buses, taxis and trains.
my organisation and memory is exactly the same, I often boil the kettle then by the time I member that I wanted a cup of tea the kettle is cold again, but yet specific things I can member incredibly well.
I dont have many issues with social stuff, although I generally avoid drinking situations now. I often feel like the world is passing me by too, although god knows why cause I never stop running around, but the truth is our lives are our lives and we dont need to be mesuring them along the same lines as any other person out there. find out what you really value and stick with that, the rest isnt going to matter in the decades to come.
I dont think there is anywhere you can go for help with dyspraxia, unless its really really sever and you need signed off and then can get benifits, or if you have severe coordination probs that you can get physio for, I dont think there is anything else. You could try checking out danda though, they may have more relevant info.
good luck
hello there! here are my experiences and views:
1. driving....i've never tried! because i'm too scared to! i can't tell left from right and my co-ordination is right off so i'm a bit paranoid that that age old comedy moment of squeezing the driving instructors thigh rather than the gear stick will actually happen! haha
i think that some of the bigger instruction companies like bsm have simulators that you can have a go on first that are just like a real car and they ask you to do normal driving things rather than whizzing round a course as fast as you can like on a computer game! maybe that might be an option for you?
2. social, i completely understand what you mean with drinking past your limit when you're out, i do that too. it sounds weird but i quite often feel sobre when i'm in a club even though i've had a lot to drink, and when i get home i realise just how drunk i really am, it's quite strange.
maybe if it's been 3 years since you went to a club you should give it another try? go with some really good friends, maybe to see a band? when you're watching a band you're less likely to hammer the drinks because you're too preoccupied with watching.
3. psychological stuff. that is exactly me that you described! i can't take criticism so i hate anyone who gives it to me. my self esteem is up and down like a yoyo and i day dream almost constantly...i lose vast amounts of my day by staring into space thinking about things that i often can't remember when i'm snapped out of it! unfortunately i think all this comes part and parcel of being a person, but perhaps slightly exaggerated because of the dyspraxia, because there's only so much you can do to help those things and you can never get rid of them completely.
4. organisation...oh dear lord, i'm terrible....i get most of my exercise by going up and down the stairs all day because i decide that i need to get something, go down and i've forgotten! back upstairs, i remember, back down etc! i write lists if i need to remember something important, i lose the piece of paper. the getting out of bed, i have that too...i try to think of something exciting that i can do as an incentive to get up (usually going shopping in my case!). maybe even talking yourself into going to the local shop to buy a newspaper or a can of coke might help?
i can't really help with where to go to help as apart from this place i don't have a clue!
x
1. driving....i've never tried! because i'm too scared to! i can't tell left from right and my co-ordination is right off so i'm a bit paranoid that that age old comedy moment of squeezing the driving instructors thigh rather than the gear stick will actually happen! haha
i think that some of the bigger instruction companies like bsm have simulators that you can have a go on first that are just like a real car and they ask you to do normal driving things rather than whizzing round a course as fast as you can like on a computer game! maybe that might be an option for you?
2. social, i completely understand what you mean with drinking past your limit when you're out, i do that too. it sounds weird but i quite often feel sobre when i'm in a club even though i've had a lot to drink, and when i get home i realise just how drunk i really am, it's quite strange.
maybe if it's been 3 years since you went to a club you should give it another try? go with some really good friends, maybe to see a band? when you're watching a band you're less likely to hammer the drinks because you're too preoccupied with watching.
3. psychological stuff. that is exactly me that you described! i can't take criticism so i hate anyone who gives it to me. my self esteem is up and down like a yoyo and i day dream almost constantly...i lose vast amounts of my day by staring into space thinking about things that i often can't remember when i'm snapped out of it! unfortunately i think all this comes part and parcel of being a person, but perhaps slightly exaggerated because of the dyspraxia, because there's only so much you can do to help those things and you can never get rid of them completely.
4. organisation...oh dear lord, i'm terrible....i get most of my exercise by going up and down the stairs all day because i decide that i need to get something, go down and i've forgotten! back upstairs, i remember, back down etc! i write lists if i need to remember something important, i lose the piece of paper. the getting out of bed, i have that too...i try to think of something exciting that i can do as an incentive to get up (usually going shopping in my case!). maybe even talking yourself into going to the local shop to buy a newspaper or a can of coke might help?
i can't really help with where to go to help as apart from this place i don't have a clue!
xThanks
A massive thanks for all your views and comments, its great to there are people out there like me.
Look forward to your posts in the future
Shepo
Look forward to your posts in the future
Shepo
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Memory is so haphazard.
I'll make a cup of tea and find it again stone cold hours later.
Yesterday I promised my dad I'd clean the cars as a favour. Forgot.
Also yesterday recited (to an astounded friend) verbatim a snatch of prose from a book I've not seen in over a decade and got it word-perfect.
*sigh* my brain and me. What an odd pair.
I've a luverly bunch o' coconuts didderly....
I'll make a cup of tea and find it again stone cold hours later.
Yesterday I promised my dad I'd clean the cars as a favour. Forgot.
Also yesterday recited (to an astounded friend) verbatim a snatch of prose from a book I've not seen in over a decade and got it word-perfect.
*sigh* my brain and me. What an odd pair.
I've a luverly bunch o' coconuts didderly....
I forget everything, I make appointments then totally forget about them as soon as I've made them.
I promice someone a cup of tea and then go straight up stairs and play suf the net for an hour..
I also find it hard to understand people with unusual accents, or over a phoneline, a lady rang me the last day on a public phone in a not-very-loud pub and she had to repeat herself about 20 times before I could understand what she was saying... it turnes out it was my mother!
another problem thats pretty common is revision on reports, my writing always ends up a total mess, so much so thta i usualy have to rewirte everything I do twice or three times, just ot make it sound like the sentence i formed in my head...very annoying.
I also get the odd bout of depression, but i dont really let it bother me, i just have some me time(no going out or entertaining people, stay in, enjoy music) and it passes in a day or two, my friends usually understand.
Lately, not being albe to go back to sleep after waking up in the middle of the night is being a real pain in the ass
I promice someone a cup of tea and then go straight up stairs and play suf the net for an hour..
I also find it hard to understand people with unusual accents, or over a phoneline, a lady rang me the last day on a public phone in a not-very-loud pub and she had to repeat herself about 20 times before I could understand what she was saying... it turnes out it was my mother!
another problem thats pretty common is revision on reports, my writing always ends up a total mess, so much so thta i usualy have to rewirte everything I do twice or three times, just ot make it sound like the sentence i formed in my head...very annoying.
I also get the odd bout of depression, but i dont really let it bother me, i just have some me time(no going out or entertaining people, stay in, enjoy music) and it passes in a day or two, my friends usually understand.
Lately, not being albe to go back to sleep after waking up in the middle of the night is being a real pain in the ass