Hi my name is Vicky
Im feeling very low at moment and desprately seeking answers to questions. I feel that dypraxia has ruined any chance of a career no matter how hard I try. Has this happened to anyone else? I struggle to multi task and my short term memory is poor. Ive always known somthing was not right , but this didnt really affect my life until I reached adulthood and since then in in my late twenties my working life has been mainly disatrous. I try so hard and im so motivated but I always seem to fall flat on my face. Is it so much wanting a career.
I really statred strugling and knew somthing was wrong when went to uni to study nursing, I found it difficult to write assignements, and found they didint flow properaly and were jumbled, so i used the computer and used to write and re write them out ten times, my brother who is a nurse helped me. I also struggled on placements with the noise and multi tasking. I was very good at the caring and one to one aspect.
When I qualified as a nurse I sruggled and they thought I had dyslexia and sent me for a psycological assessment and found I had dyspraxia.
Then tey deemed that it was to stressful for me to work as a nurse and were going to re employ me somewhere else in the NHS. But I couldnt face not been able to do what Id always dreamed of and left.
I tried 4 times in different areas of nursing doing other care jobs in betwen before admitting defeat.
I thought recently I had finally found the right career as nuswery manager, then I stated to struggle and they asked me if I would like to step down from the postion. Since then I have not been back and have stepped down to nusery nurse, down £300.00 in wages a month, ive got a house and partnewr so I need money.
I feel that dypraxia is ruining my life when all I do is try so hard is it so much to ask to want a career, I just feel ive failed.
Anyone out there with any answers please, please help me.
Vicky
dyspraxia ruining my life/career
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Vickster
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dyspraxia ruining my life/career
Don't let the b**tards grind you down!
Hi Vicky,
Welcome to the forum!
You have not failed.... it sounds to me as you have achieved alot I know it is hard work to become a qualified nurse.... I spent my industrial training year working in a hospital... I think "normal" people struggle with nursing, it can be a very stressful career....
When you have been working have you had any support from your workplace? As getting the support can make a great deal of difference...
Have you thought about setting up a nursery scheme from home... you can then go at your own pace? If you struggle with the written side either get family and friends to help or if you can afford it a professional e.g. accountants etc
If you have a supportive partner with spare time maybe go into it as a joint venture... you do the care side and he does the paperwork... you can work it to both your strengths and weaknesses...
Have you thought about working in a doctors surgery or as a district nurse.... where you are working on a more one to one situation?
I am sure that there is a job out there which will suit your talents down to a "t", you just have to keep battling on.....
Sorry for "rabbiting" on...
Hope you find what you are looking for....
Welcome to the forum!
You have not failed.... it sounds to me as you have achieved alot I know it is hard work to become a qualified nurse.... I spent my industrial training year working in a hospital... I think "normal" people struggle with nursing, it can be a very stressful career....
When you have been working have you had any support from your workplace? As getting the support can make a great deal of difference...
Have you thought about setting up a nursery scheme from home... you can then go at your own pace? If you struggle with the written side either get family and friends to help or if you can afford it a professional e.g. accountants etc
If you have a supportive partner with spare time maybe go into it as a joint venture... you do the care side and he does the paperwork... you can work it to both your strengths and weaknesses...
Have you thought about working in a doctors surgery or as a district nurse.... where you are working on a more one to one situation?
I am sure that there is a job out there which will suit your talents down to a "t", you just have to keep battling on.....
Sorry for "rabbiting" on...
Hope you find what you are looking for....
Drama is life with the dull bits cut out...
Hi Vickster 
and welcome to the board
What you've said in your post echoes a lot of what I've felt about having dyspraxia.
I went to university a few years back (when I didn't know I had dyspraxia) and only managed to do four of the six first year modules of a BSc in Psychology. I just managed to scrape through with a fifty to sixty percent mark on average. I felt like something was wrong with me and I quit the course feeling very much a failure (I also suffer from perfectionist tendancies as well as dyspraxia:) ). Psychology was something I very much wanted to do and even though I had the enthusiasm for the subject my academic side was just not there. I felt very low and depressed. My friends and family picked fault with me for not being capable and it pushed my low self esteem even further down into the ground.
A year later I enrolled on another course - this time an art based one - at my local college and even though my academic side is still not up to scratch I've learnt that with my dyspraxia that I'm having to adapt my life to doing what I can do - my strengths, and not having to worry about my weaknesses (I still hope to do something in the psychology field albeit become an art therapist when I complete an art degree) so in a way its like I'm having to find another route into what I would like to do. I'm also getting help and support from the colleges Learning Support team with my essay writing etc.
There is something out there for you. You don't have to give up your dream job.. all you have to do is maybe find another route into the profession, one that suits your capabilities. Don't give up because your self esteem will suffer and it will be like letting your disability rule your life when in fact you can sort of adapt your life around it. Every day is still a battle for me to not feel a failure because of not sticking out the psychology degree but really knowing that there is another way around it has perked me up and makes me feel that I can still achieve what I want to do. Even though it may take me longer, I'm determined to stick it out now I know that my dyspraxia is to blame for a lot of my feeling incapable.
Hope this helps you some way.. keep posting your thoughts and feelings on here, thats what this place is for.. so that none of us feel alone. You're not alone
Stay strong
Dani
and welcome to the board What you've said in your post echoes a lot of what I've felt about having dyspraxia.
I went to university a few years back (when I didn't know I had dyspraxia) and only managed to do four of the six first year modules of a BSc in Psychology. I just managed to scrape through with a fifty to sixty percent mark on average. I felt like something was wrong with me and I quit the course feeling very much a failure (I also suffer from perfectionist tendancies as well as dyspraxia:) ). Psychology was something I very much wanted to do and even though I had the enthusiasm for the subject my academic side was just not there. I felt very low and depressed. My friends and family picked fault with me for not being capable and it pushed my low self esteem even further down into the ground.
A year later I enrolled on another course - this time an art based one - at my local college and even though my academic side is still not up to scratch I've learnt that with my dyspraxia that I'm having to adapt my life to doing what I can do - my strengths, and not having to worry about my weaknesses (I still hope to do something in the psychology field albeit become an art therapist when I complete an art degree) so in a way its like I'm having to find another route into what I would like to do. I'm also getting help and support from the colleges Learning Support team with my essay writing etc.
There is something out there for you. You don't have to give up your dream job.. all you have to do is maybe find another route into the profession, one that suits your capabilities. Don't give up because your self esteem will suffer and it will be like letting your disability rule your life when in fact you can sort of adapt your life around it. Every day is still a battle for me to not feel a failure because of not sticking out the psychology degree but really knowing that there is another way around it has perked me up and makes me feel that I can still achieve what I want to do. Even though it may take me longer, I'm determined to stick it out now I know that my dyspraxia is to blame for a lot of my feeling incapable.
Hope this helps you some way.. keep posting your thoughts and feelings on here, thats what this place is for.. so that none of us feel alone. You're not alone
Stay strong
Dani
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Vickster
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Hi Vickster here,
I just want to say a big thank you for the support people have given me, through the replies to this forum, its nice to know thay im not alone, in this.
Ive never really had any support in the workplace because I dont think employers show much empathy and understanding (unless I havent found the right job yet and believe me I had a few), their attitude is if you struggle in some areas you cant do the job and thats it sort of thing.
I think because I have low self esteem I just give up when they start critising the way I work and find another job rather than stick up for myself.
Im going to work on being stronger and not a walk over but this I think will take time. I have come on alot though for years I couldnt look anyone in the eye for years (does anyone else have this problem?) and managers used to comment on this but now I can.
Im going to try and get a less stessful job one that I know I can do, and doesnt put me in a stressful postion, ill have to manage even if its low paided, I dont care. Then in september I may well go to night school and think of a career change I just dont know what yet.
I think since I was diagnosed with dyspraxia my low self esteem has got worse, but it was also a relief, anyone out there feel the same.
I also have days when I feel my head spins and I start things stop them and go onto somthing else without completing tasks.
I also have to keep writing lists and there are days I get overloaded and get very tired as a result. This is worse for me when I adopt to change i.e come back off holiday.
Can anyone else relate to the above, id love to here your views, thanks once again for your support
Kind Regards
Vicky
I just want to say a big thank you for the support people have given me, through the replies to this forum, its nice to know thay im not alone, in this.
Ive never really had any support in the workplace because I dont think employers show much empathy and understanding (unless I havent found the right job yet and believe me I had a few), their attitude is if you struggle in some areas you cant do the job and thats it sort of thing.
I think because I have low self esteem I just give up when they start critising the way I work and find another job rather than stick up for myself.
Im going to work on being stronger and not a walk over but this I think will take time. I have come on alot though for years I couldnt look anyone in the eye for years (does anyone else have this problem?) and managers used to comment on this but now I can.
Im going to try and get a less stessful job one that I know I can do, and doesnt put me in a stressful postion, ill have to manage even if its low paided, I dont care. Then in september I may well go to night school and think of a career change I just dont know what yet.
I think since I was diagnosed with dyspraxia my low self esteem has got worse, but it was also a relief, anyone out there feel the same.
I also have days when I feel my head spins and I start things stop them and go onto somthing else without completing tasks.
I also have to keep writing lists and there are days I get overloaded and get very tired as a result. This is worse for me when I adopt to change i.e come back off holiday.
Can anyone else relate to the above, id love to here your views, thanks once again for your support
Kind Regards
Vicky
Don't let the b**tards grind you down!
welcome to the forum, sorry about the delay in this message.
another thing you could try is nursing homes, as their turn around of staff is pretty quick with one reason or another.
I am sorry not too much help on this, but hope the suggestion works for you.
edit: as for most people on here, then yes, I think dyspraxia has affected their lives, in some shape or other. like me with large goods, learning to drive a large truck having the problems knowing left from right.
not knowing where I am, having to look the opposite side of the vehicle when turning left or right, like turning right, and watching the right mirror reguardless of vehicles parked on the left. the car driving test was a lot easier for me personally.
my car test I passed first time, and my truck will be my 3rd attempt when I get around to booking another theory test. the theory was easy, but the driving is the hardest part. and as driving large vehicles is what I want to do for a living, then yes, it has got a major impact on my life. there again you could say why not drive something on my car licence? I feel that something that small doesn't represent a challenge.
so yes, I am pushing myself to the limits. just that the truck driving test is the bit I got to master, I know I can do it with the driving instructor, it is just the nerves, and the tension behind the driving test.
another thing you could try is nursing homes, as their turn around of staff is pretty quick with one reason or another.
I am sorry not too much help on this, but hope the suggestion works for you.
edit: as for most people on here, then yes, I think dyspraxia has affected their lives, in some shape or other. like me with large goods, learning to drive a large truck having the problems knowing left from right.
not knowing where I am, having to look the opposite side of the vehicle when turning left or right, like turning right, and watching the right mirror reguardless of vehicles parked on the left. the car driving test was a lot easier for me personally.
my car test I passed first time, and my truck will be my 3rd attempt when I get around to booking another theory test. the theory was easy, but the driving is the hardest part. and as driving large vehicles is what I want to do for a living, then yes, it has got a major impact on my life. there again you could say why not drive something on my car licence? I feel that something that small doesn't represent a challenge.
so yes, I am pushing myself to the limits. just that the truck driving test is the bit I got to master, I know I can do it with the driving instructor, it is just the nerves, and the tension behind the driving test.
Mike
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pussinboots
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Vickster
I know just how you are feeling. I didn't realise what was wrong with me is Dyspraxia until the last few years. I have had numerous jobs all of them end in disaster as I can't multi task either. I don't have much confidence and managed to get a degree in drama but couldn't do anything with it when I'd struggled to get it. I've been working in offices but not very successfully. My partner despairs of me as he doesn't believe there's anything like dyspraxia and calls it an excuse!
I live in a lovely part of the countryside but have immense trouble getting around as I'm trying to learn to drive but have failed 3 tests. I'm in an automatic car as I failed twice in a manual car and couldn't hack doing all those things at once. I'm not doing much better in the automatic really. I could do with driving as I have to rely on my partner to take me places as it's 4 miles to the nearest small town.
I think you did amazingly well to become a nurse. It's a very hard career and all that science to master. I don't doubt you feel depressed having to give it up. The profession needs people like you though so it might be worth giving it another go if it's what you really want to do.
I do understand what it's like though as I'm in the same boat. I was so relieved to have found this forum as I didn't know there were others out there with the same difficulties I have.
Post me when you feel depressed. I'm a walking disaster area so I'm sure you're doing really well when compared to me.
Regards
Pussinboots
I live in a lovely part of the countryside but have immense trouble getting around as I'm trying to learn to drive but have failed 3 tests. I'm in an automatic car as I failed twice in a manual car and couldn't hack doing all those things at once. I'm not doing much better in the automatic really. I could do with driving as I have to rely on my partner to take me places as it's 4 miles to the nearest small town.
I think you did amazingly well to become a nurse. It's a very hard career and all that science to master. I don't doubt you feel depressed having to give it up. The profession needs people like you though so it might be worth giving it another go if it's what you really want to do.
I do understand what it's like though as I'm in the same boat. I was so relieved to have found this forum as I didn't know there were others out there with the same difficulties I have.
Post me when you feel depressed. I'm a walking disaster area so I'm sure you're doing really well when compared to me.
Regards
Pussinboots