perfectionism

mina · Post by **mina** » Fri May 18, 2007 10:01 am

I was wondering whether anyone else here struggles with perfectionism and whether it stops you achieving what you want.

Lumic · Post by **Lumic** » Fri May 18, 2007 12:09 pm

i am a bit of a perfectionist for example this week i did my disertation presentation and critised my self hugly but my tutor insists i did well but i know i never and could have done better. felt bit down about it but then thought well at least i tryed and did it. i guess perfectiosim can hold you back if you let it, a friend told me a couple of years ago.." you like to be perfect at everything and wont stop until it is.... but not everything in life is perfect nor is anyone the place would be a boring world if it was" ive took these words and realised i dont have to be a perfectionist at everything now i try my hardest to do well in everything but i dont get to what i see as perfection its not the end of the world, since being like this i have got distinctions in coleege and still find the time to have a laugh with out studying till all hours and having no life. this is jus my experiance and me being a perfectionist but thinking that no one is perfect and the world certainly isnt i have mangaed to stop my self as being as bad, and having more fun in the process

sorry if i waffled on haha

rah · Post by **rah** » Fri May 18, 2007 5:19 pm

i'm such a perfectionist with my art, to the extent that i'm either not happy with it or i just never finish it

i'm trying to teach myself to appreciate everything that i doodle, i've just bought myself a decent sketchbook that i can't rip pages out of if i go wrong!

Riddles · Post by **Riddles** » Fri May 18, 2007 6:00 pm

I'm a perfectionist at heart, I was always a perfectionist, I'm trying to teach myself that mistakes happen, perfection is nigh achievable but it doesnt work. I don't know if theres a way out of it though, big pain in the butt to be honest.

robyn · Post by **robyn** » Sat May 19, 2007 8:04 am

i have issues with this too, it seems like i allways set myself up to fail cause of them

Dani · Post by **Dani** » Sat May 19, 2007 11:35 pm

I had a big problem with perfectionism, read my post on the depression thread to see what I mean..

Post by **Shadwell** » Mon May 21, 2007 3:39 pm

I have a problem with being a perfectionist, as I learn where I went wrong, and then mess something else up instead!

whereas if I relax then usually comes out better (as one major ***** up!!)

so I try not to think of everything being perfect

, perhaps it is because something always goes wrong in my family, births, deaths, and marriages!

the most famous one was my aunt's wedding, we all pilled onto the coach after the evening do, and then the coach pulled off, leaving the bride, and groom at the venue!! as always I was the one being told to shut up, as they were apparently sitting further forward on the bus! when I never even seen them get on (which they didn't!), all we knew was the head count was missing 2, and it was 3 or 4 times they counted, but how can you miss the most important people of the day? if it was friends that you didn't know then maybe, but the bride and groom?! takes quite some doing!!