Dyspraxic chaps in relationships

Post by **Daniel** » Thu Mar 22, 2007 8:30 pm

You reckon? Shy maybe, but I still think a certain forwardness is required to make yourself known in the first place.

david456 · Post by **david456** » Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:02 am

But to be honest, how would that happen? A shy guy would have to become to talk to a girl, if done it a few times and have ended up with phone numbers and a date - but thye have backed out later on.

I hvae to say If I was ever approached for a change, i'd be so flattered I would go out with them.

david456 · Post by **david456** » Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:05 am

I've been knocked back so much now. I really don't want to ask anyone out, if I do like them. as I don't get an honest answer. A yes is a no.

donnaf · Post by **donnaf** » Fri Mar 23, 2007 5:16 pm

Damn it, I'm sure I replied to this last night....must not have hit the submit button properly or something!
Anyhoo, the gist of what I said was that if you are friends with someone first, you don't need as much confidence to talk to them as you do if you just meet someone in a random place and have to go up to them and talk to them.
But what I meant by cocky and over confident was the type of guys who parade around thinking they are gods gift to women and can get anyone they like....cause they can't!

becky · Post by **becky** » Sat Mar 24, 2007 8:03 am

Here, here. I've had bad experiences with over-confident guys. So much nicer to have someone about who maybe is a little shy and appreciates your company. As opposed to just being another notch.

donnaf · Post by **donnaf** » Sat Mar 24, 2007 1:19 pm

Someone who has the sensitivity to actually care about you as a person and not just as a conquest....the kind of guy who can speak up for himself but doesn't always have to have his voice heard above everyone else!

mattie · Post by **mattie** » Fri Apr 06, 2007 1:53 pm

I would like a relationship soon.

Mattie.

Nicky · Post by **Nicky** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 10:12 am

Here's a new category for you Dan, I'm in a relationship with a wonderful guy that we are sadly going to have to end in a couple of months due to religious differences and family ties! Grrr!

Post by **Shadwell** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 11:09 am

I thought we were totally out of that kind of date, and age now Nicky!

surely it should be what the heart want's, rather than what the mind is told!

ok so I am not religous, and as long as my next partner doesn't want me to go to church, or a cermany every week, then I don't mind what religion they have, like might even embrace it if it means I get more present's!!!

about the only religion me, and my family do is Christmas, but then some things we don't do like watch a church service on tv, or go to church, and 10% of the family watch the queen speach. it used to be a good time to take my parent's dog for a walk!! even used to have my grandfather go with me!

Nicky · Post by **Nicky** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 12:30 pm

Religion doesn't really move with the times I'm afraid, so it's not so simple! Personally I'm agnostic, but my family are not and nor is my boyfriend (different religions). So it's down to a choice between them and him. Boy am I sick of it, I wish they'd stop caring about what I do so much! Looking way ahead, when it comes to bringing up children, I suppose culturally they'd be clashes between what my boyfriend would want to do and what my family would want to do. I think Christianity is a touch different in that it is less community/family based and more based on the faith of the individual. Sorry for the slightly off topic rant! (and I'm not a bloke, I missed the word "chaps" in the title!)

Post by **Daniel** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 3:11 pm

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Nicky. I don't want to get too involved in the discussion as I personally have a hard time relating to such strongly held beliefs, but it seems a shame that those involved couldn't realise that what's best for you should be held paramount and that you and your partner would make the decision as how to best raise children as and when the time came for that.

Personally I'd not want my kids to be indoctrinated with any particular belief system, preferring instead to teach them common sense and decency and let them make their own minds up as regards what they want to believe in. However I understand that for those with strong beliefs there's not necessarily any perceived distance between their beliefs and what they'd regard as their own parental instincts and common sense.

Nicky · Post by **Nicky** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 5:08 pm

Sounds like a sensible stance and one I'd take myself if there weren't other people involved! You're right about some people finding it hard to separate beliefs and common sense. To me common sense, decency and family are all that matter, it's a shame when they clash! I know that I would not want to hinder any children of mine from making their own decisions when old enough, unlike my parents. Sounds like any kids of yours would be very well brought up Dan.

Post by **Shadwell** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 7:41 am

I think we all got the right sense, as far as religion goes, so yes I aggree with dan again, kids shouldn't be forced into a religion, it is their lives, and up to them at the end of the day.

and at the end of the day, as long as they don't cause mass distruction through religion, then the parent's should love that child for life.

I can only guess what my one friend is going through, as he didn't agree with his parent's belief, and went against the grain so to say, and as a result he doesn't have anything at all to do with them, even doing things like parking his car in another street so his parent's don't find out where he is living.

and I do find it sad, that he has got to goto extreme messures, like changing phone numbers, parking in a different street, getting his girlfriend to answer the door, and lie to his parent's, and such like.

and not having anything to do with his entire family, even I got to let him know by phone where I am, so he knows it is me at the door, even though I have told him that I am on my way over. he isn't in total hiding, but it isn't too far off being that way.

so I know the world isn't perfect, but to goto such extreme messures, then it does seem a bit crazy.

keiraknightleyfan27 · Post by **keiraknightleyfan27** » Mon Apr 09, 2007 3:18 am

donnaf wrote:Damn it, I'm sure I replied to this last night....must not have hit the submit button properly or something!
Anyhoo, the gist of what I said was that if you are friends with someone first, you don't need as much confidence to talk to them as you do if you just meet someone in a random place and have to go up to them and talk to them.
But what I meant by cocky and over confident was the type of guys who parade around thinking they are gods gift to women and can get anyone they like....cause they can't!

Yeah, I think most women really hate cocky guys! I personally don't like them at all! I mean, if you think you are the most important thing in the world then obviously you think you are better than me and I don't want to be with someone who thinks that I'm not as good as them.

donnaf · Post by **donnaf** » Mon Apr 09, 2007 10:53 am

I have an ex.......I was with this guy for over 2 years, more fool me.....who used to tell me that he wasn't perfect but he was about as close to perfect that anyone could get!! I mean, climb down from up your own ass man!!! He had plenty of flaws, believe me.

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