Romantic relationships

[Liz944]

I definately agree long distance relationships can be extremely hard on both parties when you are apart....

[rah]

yeah, long distance can be very difficult, but i think that if you love them then you'll make it work, congratulations lithium joe!

i am currently very happy as i plucked up the courage to tell a bloke that i like him and he does like me too!

i'm not sure what's going to happen now, but i'm glad that i got it off my chest and i'm pretty proud of myself for making the first move, i don't think i've ever done that before!

[Shadwell]

congrats on plucking up the courage, but I hope you haven't landed yourself in it Rah, as it might turn ugly now.

as if it has you might not be able to keep him on speaking ters let alone for there to be anything between you.

hope everything hasn't gone pair shaped!

[rah]

things are actually going pretty well! we're going out for a drink tomorrow

i'm actually pretty proud of how well i'm dealing with the situation....i'm not sure if he's split up with his girlfriend but i intend to let him know that i'm not going to be a bit on the side, however, i'm not going to force him to make a choice between the two of us as then it's more likely to get messy.

basically, i'm just going to give him the time and the space to decide what he wants. i do like him a lot, but i'm pretty confident that we could stay friends even if it doesn't work out how i'd like, seeing as this week has been fine considering that i potentially could've made a huge fool of myself by admitting that i like him!

thankyou for the words of caution though me dear xxx

[Little Miss Anxious]

I think sometimes before I think and fall in love easy but I have met two people which have accepted me one thinks I'm weird and the other one was very clingy. I feel now that this relationship I am currently having will go down the drain and I will be left in Hearthache. I really love this guy but am concerned about his health and since I have gotten very close to his parents I confronted his dad by two texts about my worry for him and educating him about alcohol and depression mixed together by mistake coz I was afraid of the side effects or results of my partner drinking a bit and alot with his anti-depressant so I wanted his father to back me up so I could get him out of this habbit but it looks to him like I am saying that he has no independance and is unreliable but I'm just worried for him and now he wants some space to think. I think I have just screwed my relationship with this wonderful guy with a heart of gold. We have been together for 7months and we have both decided to settle. Yes I get stressed over think what will happen him and I stoped him from self harming which he doesnto do any more and hasn't for 6 months or 5. I really love this guy. How can I make it up to him? He makes me laugh, smile inside, I can be myself around him. He is very forgiving,playfull, understanding,fun, friendly generious aND CONSIDERATE. I don't want to loose him. I am in love with him. Lived with this guy for three montths. He is my world and I couldn't imagine a world without him. I need your help boys and girls. What do I do to earn his forgiveness and get him back in my life. I don't wanna give up. He is a good lad and he deserved loads of respect love and support which I taught I gave him.Wb please write back.

[Liz944]

Personally I would explain to him why you did what you did, tell him you are always there for him if he needs you. Then give him the space he has asked for. Hopefully once he has thought things through he will have calmed down enough to realise you where only trying to help...

[Creative]

I always seem to fall for the wrong people. The last one turned out not to be understanding about dyspraxia and to think about himself all the time. I don't want somebody like that!

Hopefully next time I will fall for a nice person, rather than just someone who is physically attractive.

I haven't had a relationship for 5 years but I don't get to meet many young people, I hate pubs, clubs and find eating in resturants iand going out in the evening diffcult. Most of the time I don't mind being single. I'm happy on my own. But at other times I feel I would like the oppertunity to try a new relationship.

[Lithium_joe]

my long term relationship and engagement came to a crushing end earlier this year and I'm still pretty upset about it.

[Creative]

It takes time to get over a realtionship. My only serious one, only lasted for 3 months, but it took me over a year to get over it and even today I still feel sad when I thinkabout how upsetting the break up was at the time.

[gherkin001]

My shortest relationship was 5 years, it took 3 years to get over and I hope Clive and I never split having now been together 6 years, I know I couldnt take the pain again.

Kirsty

[Little Miss Anxious]

I find myself lonely and wanting someone to talk to, nothing else. Work, sleep see a couple of mates now and again, but I just want someone to listen someone I can also listen to and talk to as well and form a bond with. Is that strange or wrong?
I've asked out girls in the past and they have even said yes to going out with me, but then they tell me they have boyfriends!
I guess there are advantages to being single, but sometimes it is no fun being on your own, although sometimes I like somewhere to myself.
The trouble is If haven't met anyone socially who I've clicked with. That worries me in a way, is it me that isn't a socialite (think that is right word) and so people aren't very interested or is it them looking for people who stand out in the crowd?

It isn't fun to be alone and it's better to have found love than to have never have found love at all and what if a member of your family die and you fall out with friends. You will be alone and that sucks! I say be friends with a guy or girl for a while and if you trust them and feel comfortable with them then get closer and then ask them out but make sure you have a couple of mix friends as well as a girlfriend . lol. amyxx

[Little Miss Anxious]

Personally I would explain to him why you did what you did, tell him you are always there for him if he needs you. Then give him the space he has asked for. Hopefully once he has thought things through he will have calmed down enough to realise you where only trying to help...

He has forgiven me two nights after that incident and has decided that he still wants to settle with me. Spent a wonderfull week with him at the end of Jully or early Augast and now what is stressing me out is he is hidding sum dangerous information from his parents, which he told me the first time we met and we or he owes money for a dog and these boys take illegal substances which I wont get into so when we changed our mind about this dog this tough guy didn't tell his friend that we wanted a different dog and when he rang my boyfriend he perswaded him that he ended up giving in and didn't get around to paying him in total so now they have increased the price and the dog jumped the wall. That is one of the reasons why my man is staying away from my home county in Sligo and wants to stay in his home county even though he will loose his finacial benefits or payment which he had when he was on a course with me in Sligo. He still wants to be payed or transfered to a course in Mayo but the representive cant do either and he has lost two dogs, one great uncle in war, an ex girfriend who took an over dose and a cousin and has a loan to pay to the bank for money borrowed for college. My mum doesn't want me to be with him but I thought couples are supposed to see things through. He was explaining to our instructor that he doesn't want to be in Sligo because of certain situations which he didn't say, which was the dog incident and the incident with our annoying clingy flatemate. When his parents asked him what happended in Sligo, he started a huge arguement with them and stormed off drunk into the night but he is back now. When this happened his father rang asking if I heard from him and if I had and didn't tell him he would make me regret it. Trying to figure out why his father said that and what he meant by it. I haven't seen ALex for almost three weeks and I want to see him to talk about stuff and sort stuff out. His father really terrified me with that threat???Wb

[Liz944]

Possibly a very stressed and upset father under the circumstances. Try and ignore it if you can and think of how as a father he see's things. He is probably thinking his son is with you and you are not telling him, even though he was not with you. It does not excuse the fathers behaviour but I would suggest you give the father a wide birth.

[Little Miss Anxious]

What do you a do when your man is asking you for a small loan each week untill he gets himself back on his feet and behaves aggressivly when you reject him?

[gherkin001]

Stop giving him money as he's quite obviously using you for the money!!

Kirsty