Hi all
This is my first post, I am a 32 year old male from Shropshire. I discovered dyspraxia only a couple of years ago. It explained all the jobs I couldn't hold down. Trial after trial coming to nothing. Feeling burned out and hopeless after every dismissal, being told I am not good enough, being told the job isn't right for me.
I am currently living in supported accommodation, my family think I am using my dyspraxia as an excuse. To them, I am unmotivated, lazy, work-shy, a mercenary, a benefits scrounger, etc., They dismiss that my brain is wired differently.
I recently took up a job at a local pub, part time bar work, the only thing I actually feel relatively comfortable doing. Got told today that following my trial period, they just couldn't comprehend the mistakes I was making. I tried to explain, but still, they don't' understand. It's just one tough life where everyone in it fails to understand me.
My theory is, that I get judged by family because they would rather paint me as an unstable, 'difficult to deal with' person because it covers up their own ill-gotten understanding, it's the path of least resistance to label me as lazy because they don't have to confront how they got me so incredibly wrong.
As far as my non-existent career goes, there is some hope still. I don't plan on giving up yet. I have a couple of analogies that I like to use to describe dyspraxia. It's like running a high-end computer on old OS. It's like having a ferrari engine put in to a mini cooper. We are not broken, we have gifted minds with a significant processing lag. Our strengths are our logical reasoning, objective truth, and I want to say to anyone who has ever been constantly undermined, and have been told they are not good enough, to never give up either. I still believe there is something out there for us.
Much love
Josh
Just lost my job! :(
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Re: Just lost my job! :(
Hi Josh
Sorry to hear that your job didn't work out. The very notion of my working in hospitality trying to keep the general public, at their very worst, happy, frankly scares me! Finding a good employer who is willing to support our development and growth is especially important, but all the more difficult if bitter experience has eroded our self-confidence, plus the difficulty of selling ourselves at interviews and picking up how things work in short order.
To ooften people lazily see dyspraxia as an excuse rather than as an explanation for why thinks don't click instantly into place. This can so often lead to burnout and a feeling of why do I bother
My favoured analogy is that it's like living with a goblin alter-ego who.enjoys sabotaging my plans for fun if I give him half a chance.
What would you like to be doing career eise?
Sorry to hear that your job didn't work out. The very notion of my working in hospitality trying to keep the general public, at their very worst, happy, frankly scares me! Finding a good employer who is willing to support our development and growth is especially important, but all the more difficult if bitter experience has eroded our self-confidence, plus the difficulty of selling ourselves at interviews and picking up how things work in short order.
To ooften people lazily see dyspraxia as an excuse rather than as an explanation for why thinks don't click instantly into place. This can so often lead to burnout and a feeling of why do I bother
My favoured analogy is that it's like living with a goblin alter-ego who.enjoys sabotaging my plans for fun if I give him half a chance.
What would you like to be doing career eise?
Tom
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
(from Peter and the Test Tube Babies, Foot Full of Bullets)