Rather odd issue with intimacy

[goatmeal]

Hi there folks! I’m a 22-year-old male who was diagnosed with dyspraxia at a young age, and I just had my first intimate encounter. However, I discovered something rather... odd during the act: I couldn’t feel any of it with my member. Like, I couldn’t even tell if I was penetrating or not and my fiancé had to tell me when I slipped out of the hole a couple times. Despite my clumsiness, in the end she said she really enjoyed it, but I ended up walking away feeling like I hadn’t even just had sex because I didn’t feel any of it.

I’ve never seemed to have this problem with self-pleasure before, but I’ve noticed a lack of sensation down there when I have kidney stones (the only pain I ever feel is the stones’ trip from the kidney to the bladder, never any pain on the way out).

Anyone here have any similar problems with a lack of sensation in the nether regions, or have any suggestions on how to make things more enjoyable for the both of us?

[Tom fod]

If you"ve been used to solo manual stimulation it may take take a while to get used to intercourse. Keep at it with your partner and you will be fine.

The first time is often a bit 'is that it' for many. Learn about that you both enjoy together.

[ALADDIN]

I think a dyspraxic can find sex ovewrhelming, - the emotions, movement, position, penetration, sensory processing.

Does anyone agree with me ?

[Tom fod]

Yes, Whilst biologically it should come naturally there's a a lot of emotion, verbal and non verbal communication and if people are sensitive to textures that might also need to be overcome. I wish I could understand and get my head around the whole business of attraction, dating and relationships and womankind in todays age and that's before I get anywhere near having any more of 'that sort of thing' by which time I'll probably be much too old and have forgotten what it is.

[james92]

I find it overwhelming, there’s so much going on and sometimes in a split second i’ll Start thinking about dinner or the shopping by which point for me I’ve completely lost interest in what I was doing. I put it down to short concentration spand and that I can lose interest in things quickly

[Ar55]

I find the balance thing hardlike to be bold being on top is a nightmare for me!
My hubby is amazing and supportive and we laugh it off but sometimes I wish I was better at it!!

[Dyspraxicadult92]

Hello. I’m new to this but hoping these discussions can help. I was diagnosed I think at age 7 and I’m now 32. I’m gay and reading this, I recognised that I probably struggle with sensation down there too to the point where it does affect my confidence with guys. I have never really had a good experience of oral sex unless I’ve been the one giving it, also as much as I want to be able to be a top and be the giver, it has yet to happen. I never even considered this might be related to dyspraxia.

I notice on this post there are responses that vary in terms of how much people actually like intimacy, I do like it but each to their own. Everyone is different. I just wanted to say that you’re not alone.

I’m wondering if things have gotten any better for you?

I can say I’m a lot more in touch with things now than I used to be. But still lacking in the areas mentioned above.