Fastening top button when wearing a tie

[Krazy Kev]

Is fastening the top button of a shirt when wearing a tie more uncomfortable for people with dyspraxia and I mean in a sensory way?

Now for funerals etc I try to get away without fastening it and pushing it close to the top. I actually look just as smart unfastened and no one tends to say a word but I am never sure if it really acceptable plus there are always a few that don't button up anyway.

When I was at school though I never had such issues but that was a long time ago. Also my neck measurement is fine.

[Tom fod]

Hi and welcome

Not everyone with Dyspraxia is the same so I wouldn't say it's a Dyspraxia thing.

Some people may struggle with fastening the button at throat height and/or just not like any kind of feeling of constraint around the neck/throat. Not exclusively a dyspraxic thing.

Worrying and agonising about what correct etiquette is or what if other notice/make a fuss, while not an exclusive Dyspraxia worry definitely affects us. If the people you're mixing with are officer types/formalwear afficionados you might get a snide comment but better not to feel as if you're being strangled.

[Krazy Kev]

Hi and welcome

Not everyone with Dyspraxia is the same so I wouldn't say it's a Dyspraxia thing.

Some people may struggle with fastening the button at throat height and/or just not like any kind of feeling of constraint around the neck/throat. Not exclusively a dyspraxic thing.

Worrying and agonising about what correct etiquette is or what if other notice/make a fuss, while not an exclusive Dyspraxia worry definitely affects us. If the people you're mixing with are officer types/formalwear afficionados you might get a snide comment but better not to feel as if you're being strangled.

Thanks for the reply but I always thought something might be there as Google suggests sensory issues.. I do display the other common traits such as being clumsy and my judgement is poor. Obviously I should just wear how I like to wear a tie and don't stress it unless it's really low down and looking a mess! At the end of the day we are becoming more casual with dress codes which suit me better!

[Tom fod]

Hi and welcome

Not everyone with Dyspraxia is the same so I wouldn't say it's a Dyspraxia thing.

Some people may struggle with fastening the button at throat height and/or just not like any kind of feeling of constraint around the neck/throat. Not exclusively a dyspraxic thing.

Worrying and agonising about what correct etiquette is or what if other notice/make a fuss, while not an exclusive Dyspraxia worry definitely affects us. If the people you're mixing with are officer types/formalwear afficionados you might get a snide comment but better not to feel as if you're being strangled.

Thanks for the reply but I always thought something might be there as Google suggests sensory issues.. I do display the other common traits such as being clumsy and my judgement is poor. Obviously I should just wear how I like to wear a tie and don't stress it unless it's really low down and looking a mess! At the end of the day we are becoming more casual with dress codes which suit me better!

Personally I have always been less inclined to put things down to being due to sensory disorder/abnormality and accept that in some things I have strong preference /aversion.

I find some foods/things have a mouth feel that makes me gag more than your average or perhaps desensitised peers

[PaulWH]

I would definitely find this very uncomfortable, especially coupled with the fact that I actually hate ties anyway. I didn't manage to tie one correctly until I was 13, and I really don't like the sensation of wearing one at all.

Whilst there have been a lot of changes in life in general that I don't feel comfortable with, one change I do appreciate is that dress codes have become more casual. I have spent most of my life protecting, and campaigning on behalf of, endangered species, but ties are one extinction I would heartily welcome!