Feel devestated terrible mistake

[invisible2012@]

I've worked at my job for 7 years and for the first time in 7 years I made a horrible mistake and can't stop crying or getting upset .I was helping a really upset child who wanted to go toilet and he was ina nappy as I changed him he went toilet and it went on the changing mat I changed his nappy but stupidly didn't think to check his coat or jumper because he was crying so much and it was home time I rushed it I was devestated when manager told me he went home with his top and coat covered in wee I'm support staff and I feel so stupid and just want to cry and quit

[Tom fod]

The fact you care makes it hurt all the more. You were under time pressure and It was an oversight that you're a lot less likely to repeat.

It happened and you can only apologise so far so please be kind and forgive yourself so you can put the unfortunate incident behind you and move forwards.

[invisible2012@]

Thank you Tom I'm just devestated and terrified that the parent will have put in official complaint I feel so stupid

[Tom fod]

It was an honest mistake in a time of distress, and while they have cause to complain, not everyone is vindictive.
Have your management said anything?

[invisible2012@]

Yes my manager asked me about it and asked what happened

[FrankieSoup]

These mistakes happen to everyone. If it helps, I’m a parent and experienced a similar instance - details are my kids so not mine to share - but I didn’t think any less of the staff involved. Kids are hard work, even when they’re at home and we’re helping them 1 on 1 - we never get things 100% correct. I’m in awe of childcare workers - you do an incredible, important job.

[invisible2012@]

Thank you im feeling so depressed about it still and in a really bad way

[Tom fod]

Please forgive yourself. You don't need to punish yourself for this any further.

[FrankieSoup]

Can I ask - what would you tell a friend in your position?

I imagine that the answer is something kind and supportive? If so, it might be worth telling yourself that.

One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever been given is to be your own best friend - tell yourself what you’d tell someone you love.

Please try and forgive yourself.