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How does everyone else cope in groups?Socialising- How does everyone cope in group situations?
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Socialising- How does everyone cope in group situations?
I absolutley hate being in a group situation, when your talking to loads of ppl at once; its sooo confusing and pressurising; i just cannot cope with it!! I tend to just ignore everyone but one person and completley focus on them, which i worry that others see as rude..... How does everyone else cope in groups?
How does everyone else cope in groups?Goodbye, and have a pleasant tommorrow!!
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It really depends on the context and the group. Often I just don't and go somewhere quiet to calm myself before I break.
In a quiet room with a group that's respectfull of it's members (such as in a seminar) I have no problems though.
Not sure how to turn that into any sort of usefull advice though :S
In a quiet room with a group that's respectfull of it's members (such as in a seminar) I have no problems though.
Not sure how to turn that into any sort of usefull advice though :S
I think it's a common dyspraxic trait not to be able to concentrate on a single conversation in a situation with a lot of background noise. Something to do with the thalmus I seem to remember someone saying. I find this problem a lot, so the extent that in group situations I either have to just speak to a single person and do my best to concentrate on what they're saying and try try try to block out the surrounding noise, otherwise I tend to go quiet as it's too difficult and tiring to follow what's going on. It's completely rubbish for socialising, getting to know people and especially joining a group, and as you say Fuzzy your uncommon reaction to the situation can be misconstrued as being unfriendly or rude.
If I'm out socialising I stick to one or two other people at most if I can manage it, as this tends to lead to just a single conversation going on anyway which I can manage and generally I make good friends with a very small number of people rather than general friends with lots of people, so it all fits!
If I'm out socialising I stick to one or two other people at most if I can manage it, as this tends to lead to just a single conversation going on anyway which I can manage and generally I make good friends with a very small number of people rather than general friends with lots of people, so it all fits!
I have a theory about that-- see my post on Central auditory processing disorder.Daniel wrote:I think it's a common dyspraxic trait not to be able to concentrate on a single conversation in a situation with a lot of background noise. Something to do with the thalmus I seem to remember someone saying.
Greg,
I bought some attenating headphones from an outdoors shop - Blacks I think it was, that has two filters designed to keep out either general noise or lower frequency noise (snoring in particular I think it was designed for). You could always experiment with those to see if you had any luck. Cost about 6 quid ISTR.
I bought some attenating headphones from an outdoors shop - Blacks I think it was, that has two filters designed to keep out either general noise or lower frequency noise (snoring in particular I think it was designed for). You could always experiment with those to see if you had any luck. Cost about 6 quid ISTR.
Sure. They come with filters that filter out certain ranges, meaning that speech still sounds about right and background noises are diminished.Greg wrote:Hey page, how do those musicians earplugs you're talking about work? If they cut out sound in certain ranges is it possible to get ones that'd make talking in a crowd easier?
custom-fitted ones are expensive, about $200 US. There are pre-fitted ones, though, that are a lot cheaper.
Like I said in the other thread-- if you have really sensitive hearing, don't wear them too long or sounds will be even more painful when you take them off. It's really easy to put them on, wear them for days, and then forget you have them on.
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I find it hard trying to be social in big party situations and am much better with smaller numbers. It's hard to avoid that spare dyspraxix (last word changed) at a wedding feeling at times.
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There is always alcohol, but then a fake load of drunk bonhomie makes you feel doubly bad the next morning.
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I can get a little flustered if the group gets larger than 4 people (Including myself), but I'll be honest, I got really lucky to find the friends that I have.
I used to think that I never made that much impact among my friends and that i was more or less the "tag along" guy. But on my 21st birthday it all changed.
I announced that we'd start drinking in a pub at a certain time and that whoever wanted to come or could make it, to basically get their asses down. Within half an hour of the starting time we filled HALF the pub, and I was still getting messages the next day from people who couldn't make it! I've never had that happen for me before, and goddamn did it give me a valuable confidence boost!
At the end of the day, if you're struggling to cope in group situations. Persevere and the rewards will be bountiful!
I used to think that I never made that much impact among my friends and that i was more or less the "tag along" guy. But on my 21st birthday it all changed.
I announced that we'd start drinking in a pub at a certain time and that whoever wanted to come or could make it, to basically get their asses down. Within half an hour of the starting time we filled HALF the pub, and I was still getting messages the next day from people who couldn't make it! I've never had that happen for me before, and goddamn did it give me a valuable confidence boost!
At the end of the day, if you're struggling to cope in group situations. Persevere and the rewards will be bountiful!