The Future for my relationship.

[MyNameIsBecca96]

I'm 16 (Going on 17, [23/12/13]) and i've been with my Boyfriend James for 4 years. met him in 2010 volunteering at the local youth club in warrington, UK. I have Dyspraxia and he has Dyslexia, we had such a huge connection as friends, but was swept off my feed when he asked me out. He understands me and i understand him. i try to help him with his English and spelling, he helps me with my Mathematics and numeracy problems since i have Dyscalculia along side my Dyspraxia. i often dream of us getting married and having children living the life i've been dreaming of. but im scared if i'm honest! i'm scared about dealing with the stress of out jobs, Children, Bills and finances ect... and i often think will i cope? i already spoke to my mum about it, she told me not to worry, take things step by step, if they get tough, charge through it. like i did when my Nan passed away (03/10/10), i was battling Anxiety and mood swings through that period. Any Advice on how i can cope with this? i know it sounds insane because im still a teenager, i just love him so much, there's only a 1 year age gap between us, im 16, hes 17 going on 18 (18/01/14) i just want my mind at rest.

sorry if i dragged on a but too much! i tend to get carried away sometimes!

[Tim G]

I know others have probably said the same thing but take a step back - you are both young and you really don't need to think about having a family, settling down together etc etc. Now or for at least a long amount of time so really try to reflect on things and not let it overwhelm you.

just let things take there time do not rush into things - espshly when thinking about having children.

You say you have delt with bad times and anxiety etc, you can get through this and use the same / simmiler competing stragities in this situation

[FAndrews]

don't rush in to things and take it one step at time, and focus on the positives rather than the negatives. best of luck to you both.

[MyNameIsBecca96]

And to add, we're going on a little holiday just the two of us up to Gloucestershire in the summer of this year, and he wants to go to the "next level" And I'm unsure what to say to him! we've been talking about how excited we are every day for the past week and I'm struggling to pick a side. One half of my mind is saying go for it! you'll regret it if you don't. and the other is saying, eew! no this sounds wrong and you're not ready (But I actually am! I've been saying this before he even mentioned it to me over Facebook) My mind is confusing me. I want to follow my heart, but my mind makes a valid argument. any advice!!!!!!

[FAndrews]

I would say go for it!! make the most of this chance you have clearly been together long enough! good luck!