Christmas... yay....

[Jo-]

Trying it help with organising food etc with my super efficient sister and mum. Already in tears and have snapped at the first person to mention my laziness and slowness as a kid. Now want to hide away and over analyse everything that was said - wish I hadn't snapped but it's always about me being in the wrong - why is that people are so confident that they're opinion is always right and why can't they just back off when they can see I'm getting upset - oh that's right 'cos it's me that's over sensitive, they say as they they roll their eyes - well hang on a minute how come this isn't about you being insensitive and bringing up stuff that they know will upset me? Now hiding in the bedroom. And I thought I was grown up, am 48 for crying out loud!!

Not telling anyone about recent screening and high likelihood off Dyspraxia (except husband and son) as they won't get it anyway! It's certainly bringing up some very painful issues from the past while I try to make sense of it!

[Tom fod]

Hi Jo

Welcome to the forums (or fora).

Hope your Christmas got better? It does seem like a barbed comment that was said to cause upset and get a reaction. It's only natural to feel aggrieved and want to bite back to defend yourself or simply take yourself out of the room.

It is patently wrong to claim we are lazy as we have to apply ourselves 110% in things to get the results that some people achieve without seeming to try very hard at all. Sadly some peoples' lack of intelligence means they are not worth our while trying to educate them in being more accepting.

Please consider yourself to be among friends here.

[Jo-]

Thanks Tom, my day did get better but not before my mum searched me out, worried and having noticed how hurt I was. My sister didn't really mean to upset me but was in super efficient mode and somehow it got round to bringing up stuff from when we were kids. We came from quite a dysfunctional family and things were pretty rubbish even without my fairly erratic and unfocused approach to household tasks, which I know we're annoying. I'd rather we didn't talk about it though.

I did mention to my mum that I was screened recently and that I was now about to be tested for Dyspraxia. I'm sure my family will do there utmost to support me either way as my brother's dyslexia and my son's dyslexia are warmly embraced and supported. I now believe that they are both dyspraxia too.

Although we're all quite bright I do feel pretty incompetent when it comes to everyday tasks which are almost painful to carry out!! My mum can't see how I could be Dyspraxic as I'm fairly successful medical librarian and studying a Masters in Information management - can't really bake a cake to save my life though, or create the amazing stuff my sister does - I admire her enormously, I guess that why it hurts when it feels my cack-handedness is brought up - not to mention my ability to keep hitting brick walls in everyday conversation!

Things will improve, I'm almost longing for the test to prove I am Dyspraxic as it will explain absolutely everything!

Was relieved to find this group and find I have so much in common with other folk

[Tom fod]

Hi again Jo

It's not easy being caring/sensitive to how others perceive us. I know I have/would have been upset similarly. We're all different so comparing ourselves to others is fraught with pitfalls. Completely understand that you don't want to go into things too deeply.

Glad the site is helping you and please inform your mother dyspraxia is not linked to low intelligence, quite the opposite!