advice on making friends

[uniquecharlie]

hi, im a 21 girl with dyspraxia among other condtions and im feeling lonely and everytime i try to talk to people online seen as i dont go out noone talks back in chat rooms anywhere people jst seem to think im invisible i think i know im not good with social skills but im trying. anyone have any advice on making friends online ?

charlie
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[Dislikeofsocks]

Hi Charlie,
I'm a 28 yr old woman with possible/undiagnosed dyspraxia, and I'm not sure I can give any useful advice but I wanted to post just to say hi
Online friends are a mixed bag - specialised forums like this have fewer people but they are more likely to be genuine/interested/share some ideas with you. Larger social media like facebook/twitter is fine, but you may need to watch out for idiots, and people can post things that you might find upsetting/offensive (I know I get annoyed by some people).
It can be hard to meet people, but if you can do it in person it may feel more genuine.

Have you considered using any hobbies to meet people? If you don't like drinking/clubs....Do you like music, films, reading, video games? there are groups who meet to discuss a new book/film or knit etc - and this might take away the 'what shall we talk about' fear.
you sound lovely to me, i am sure there will be online and offline friends for you

Helen

[Moot]

I've been wondering ways in which I can find more friends myself as I get lonely and don't have many people who seem to want to see me much in real life. :/ I'm not keen on chatrooms myself as I feel they're really not the kind of people I'd find similarities with. I used to be okay at making friends online like on forums if not so many offline but things have died down a bit now. (I think I'm a nice enough person, but I can't change how I am too much - what do people expect so to keep them interested?!) Boo.

[uniquecharlie]

thanks helen. Im also in a wheelchair and i cant get out by myself as i cant drive yet so meeting is kinda hard thats why i want someone to be able to text or message when im stuck indoors. Because of my difficulites i thought someone on here or a site with people that understood would be a gd place to talk because we understand where as others sometimes dont. I like to knit and play video games but most people i know that knit are older by about 40 years. thanks for your advice il try more forums.

sorry to here you not having luck finding friends either moot. you can always inbox me if u want to chat. Ive tried chatrooms to but agree there's not really many nice people on them they just ask rude questions.
You shouldnt have to change who you are , if they dont like it its there lose, true friends like you for you

[Jim]

I agree that cyber social networking in a mixed bag. There is a massive amount of idiocy online to be frank and finding the decent stuff can be a bit like searching for the hay in the needlestack.

However I happen to have met and gained probably my best friends via the internet through shared interests. It's a shame that we aren't local to each though.

If you're looking for someone to chat with online though, if you're interested I could give you my google address so we could talk over gtalk. PM me if you want it.

[Creative]

I have several online Dyspraxic friends. This forum is good for people wanting to make friends with like minded people and much better than chat rooms.

[MyNameIsBecca96]

I struggle to make friends too! i'm 16 going on 17 this month (23/12/13) when i enter a room full of strangers, i just whimper in fear, as i don't know what there thinking about me when they see me. i feel out of place. i have 2 friends who understand me and helped me on my 1st day of college. and my boyfriend of 4 years understands, he has dyslexia and yet he got a "b" in his English exam. i was so proud of him, and he was proud of me when i got the "c" i wanted. i tend to fidget around people when they talk, male or female i get scared. i start to shake, so i make an excuse to leave which i get ashamed about if only i have some help! I will be doing NCS February next year, so i hope that will help! i have Developmental Co-ordination Disorder. and have had it cine i was born.
I'm new to the forum! hello!