Table manners / food issues

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Table manners / food issues

Postby Teamee » Sun Apr 14, 2013 7:23 pm

Hello everyone! I was wondering if any other people with dyspraxia have found any coping mechanisms / hints / tips for dining which they could share please? I've always struggled with eating, I was a really messy eater as a child and even now I have to really slow down and *think* about how I'm eating, which is exhausting and takes a lot of the fun out of food. And I *always* end up with food stains :(

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby minniemoo » Thu Apr 25, 2013 3:36 pm

Don't worry about what people think! Just enjoy your food - I know that is easier said than done! :)

I love eating the middle eastern way where you just use your hands to eat everything - it is fun and although other people initially tend not to like it, they soon lighten up! :) especially if the food is delicious. It is also a leveller - give everyone wraps filled with stuff to eat and EVERYONE will make a mess! you might even find that you are the least messy! :D

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby Square12 » Sat Apr 27, 2013 1:51 am

I have developed an unusual habit of eating mostly one handed, I tend to only use a fork and my right hand, although this is more due to the fact that I often have a book in my left hand. Only really use two hands when need to cut something like meat, otherwise cutting veg etc with the edge of the fork.

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby Teamee » Thu May 02, 2013 1:41 am

wow, thanks for that! Will certainly give it a try :)

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby Speedless » Sun May 05, 2013 7:37 pm

I have a huge problem with eating meals amongst other people. If its my family I won't give a care in the world, but I was staying in Newcastle with a friend who doesn't know I'm dyspraxic and my worst fears were confirmed, were having spag bol for tea #-o biggest nightmare ever! Him and his girlfriend flew through their meal, I don't know whether I was so worried about myself eating, but they just ate at the quickest and neatest I've ever seen! I took about 5 bites until I just said I weren't that hungry. I felt really bad because it was a nicely cooked home meal, but I was just so paranoid of myself that I couldn't enjoy it at all. :(

It's small but stupid stuff that really makes you feel a bit down sometimes!

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby syeda » Sat May 11, 2013 9:12 am

i just recently got diagnosed as dyspraxic, i have always been laughed at for the way i eat and i never thought this could be because of an actually difficulty. i am looking for ways to cope with as well as i always manage to have food all over my face and my clothes and not to mention the table. this is especially horrible when am out with friends on a meal i have like 10 pieces of tissues around me covered with food :-&

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby Teamee » Sun May 12, 2013 8:10 pm

Speedless - I get that a lot, not being able to enjoy food cos of being paranoid! I think it's really interesting that I'm not alone instressing about food. Syeda - that's really interesting about the tissues, amongst my circle of friends i'm famous for the amount of serviettes i get through! I think that paradoxically it helps if you relax. Certainly I think that some foods are easier that others, spag bol being one of the worst! Also crepes are a nightmare..! I think for me being left handed makes it even worse!

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby mummytoowen » Tue May 21, 2013 9:09 pm

i also have issues with eating food in front of people, when i started my job i refused to eat in the canteen with everyone at luch, i went and sat in another room, i think it stems from the fact that an ex boyfriend of mine called me a pig once and asked why i was having a dessert n stuff. im so scared someone will call me a pig again or something. i do eat in canteen now. but i just eat very slowly, and get very paranoid that im being watched. even when i go out with friends im very slow and get anxious. with family tho im fine. does any one have any suggestions how to make things better? :(

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby lauraECFan » Thu May 23, 2013 11:07 am

I cannot eat with my mouth closed as it hurts my jaw (its deformed due to having too much cartlige) so I occasionally get people commenting on it. My usual response is to carry on while looking directly at them as if to say you eat your way I will eat my way and they usually look away :lol:
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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby StephyLou » Wed Aug 07, 2013 8:24 pm

I watch myself when i'm out in a restaurant but just let loose at home. I tend to pick foods I can eat with my hands or I eat with just a fork. sod it no one can see you.

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby Roxy86 » Fri Aug 30, 2013 7:24 pm

How about spreading, like, butter etc. with a knife... Anyone else have issues there too?? :S

I make such a mess out of an otherwise 'simple' task and usually end up using WAY to my spread/jam or whatever and it's a miracle if that even makes it ONTO the bread/toast!! :blush:
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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby Lucky Star » Fri Aug 30, 2013 10:30 pm

I'm considered to have terrible table manners as I always have difficulty using cutlery which causes me to make a bit of a mess while eating. While eating out I tend to completely unfold my napkin, and place it under my plate. So, if I splatter food by accident, it will go on the napkin and will seem a little more discreet. At home I let the mess just go all over the table because when I've finished my meal I can just clean it up afterwards. I also continually switch hands with which hand I hold the knife and fork in. But that might be because I don't have a dominant hand, since I'm capable of writing with both.

I also use too much butter when I'm spreading it on my toast. But I like buttery toast, so it doesn't phase me. Though getting butter on my hands by accident makes holding the knife a challenge.
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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby DanAu96 » Fri Dec 23, 2016 11:30 pm

I'm ok with eating out in general however i do make a big mess and get food round my mouth. i struggle with restaurants that use chopsticks because i cannot use them, lots of people laugh at me when i ask for a knife and fork. i hate eating with my hands because i hate the feel of dirt on my hands. I hate walking and eating (like hotdogs) because i make a mess of it.

also I cannot eat foods with soft or smooth textures.

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Re: Table manners / food issues

Postby Tom fod » Sat Dec 24, 2016 12:59 am

I tend to have a death grip on burgers and the like and they seem to fall apart in my hands, not to mention the mess I can make. I don't do chopsticks either. Personally I would say I eat too fast and find trying to slow down helps a bit.

An intense dislike of certain textures is not uncommon.

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