Possessiveness

[toxic_ange]

Does anyone else find that when they finally get a really close friend or romantic partner that they become stupidly possessive of them?

I was just wondering if anyone else felt that, and was wondering if it was maybe because I find it difficult to make many friend when I manage I want to keep them all to myself.

[24andannoyed]

I do mate. I have had a lifetime of being obsessive over things, as well as possessive. All without having the safety blanket term of OCD, although I reckon the two have its links.

When you have those feelings, do you believe you are just doing the norm, following your heart, showing your love and support for them, showing dedication, will and loyalty?

[jad101]

sometimes i prevent myself from being possessive by forcing myself from doing certain things or thinking about certain things or people. for example if i like someone in a relationship i literally cant stop thinking about them everyday, but i know that if i contact or talk to this person everyday then it will freak them out. sometimes it works sometimes it has the opposite effect and if i dont talk to someone for a certain amount for time then they sometimes think i have lost interest. its all about balance a hard as that is for a dyspraxic person to do.

[lauraECFan]

I admit I was sort of possesive with my first serious boyfriend but I think it may have been my inexperience that contributed to it. Turned out he was only after one thing and I am better off without him I am now in a relationship which is reaching the four year mark now and also engaged.

[jad101]

ive been dating this girl (shes from my hometown but i live away at uni) and i force myself not to get too attached as i dont know where i stand with her because i dont see her all the time so i talk to her now and then rather than be possessive over it. i think some aspects of dyspraxia effects emotions and we are too quick to catch feelings for someone or something weather that be liking someone or falling out with someone.

[Lovethyheart]

I'm super possessive, I always have one close best friend, and have never been able to have more. It's also meant that at twenty I've never had a serious relationship either. I have to actively stop myself on a day to day basis from being clingy, but it seems I still am!

[minniemoo]

I think other people have mentioned this before - that we become attached to 'things' more than other people do and so I guess it is logical that we become more attached to people than others do. So, for example, I have one pen and one pencil that I like to use for prepping my work at home and I have another pencil for my work at work - I know that there is logically no difference between them - but I am attached to my method and way of doing it. If I lose one of these pens or pencils it takes me ages to get over it and rather than just use another I have to go and buy one for that purpose. I know it sounds stupid, but there you go...I am the same about my favourite mug, piece of jewellery etc. So it seems to me that in same way we can become attached to people and maybe only cope with a certain number of them (I have two mugs I use at home - I don't use the others as I don't like drinking from them - illogical I know, but it does save on washing up!!! you never get to the point where you run out of mugs for other people to use either!!! ) I am not sure I would call it being over-obsessive though...that is different...that is dangerous and I have been on the end of a relationship where the other person was like that...I think ours is more like the needing that particular pencil (person) for that particular thing and not liking other people to use it/move it (in the case of the pencil I mean!!! ). Personally I am OK with sharing people, but I can understand it....