Does anyone have Dyspraxia and depression?

[madlittleminx92]

I do and it sucks :/ i'm always paranoid about stuff like people being upset with me, i can't handle that. And relationships, i'm so terrified of them that i've never even had a boyfriend (i'm 20). I get stressed out over the stupidest of things. I'm always worried that people don't like me. I get upset over little things.
Does anyone else have these problems?
It'd be nice to hear from other people who understand because i constantly think i'm crazy for feeling like this.

[Creative]

hI, sorry you are feeling low. I exeperience depresssion at times. I'm not confident about relationships and have been single for 10 years. You're not crazy, hang in there and I'm sure things will eventually work out ok for you.

[Captain_Ludd]

Hi Littleminx ,

Yeah, I can relate to a lot of what your saying I've suffered from anxiety and depression for years, unfortunately I think its just part of being dyspraxic for a lot of us.
Don't worry your not going crazy its all just part of the ups and downs. Things do get better .

[madlittleminx92]

Thanks guys, i appreciate the support :/ it doesn't help that all of these things run in my family too so i have that added on to the fact that it's part of my disorder. Every woman in my family suffers from depression, on both sides! it's ridiculous, i don't know how my family line's even made it this far :')

[minniemoo]

A friend of mine used to say that madness didn't so much run his family as gallop through it - nearly everyone including him had depression - your comment reminded me very much of his. Please don't take offense, I don't mean it negatively. I have depression too...but somehow the dyspraxia makes it both better and worse. I, like you, can be paranoid about what people think of me and analyze every conversation I have until I drive myself crazy! This is a lot worse with pms, when I just know I'm being paranoid - but can judge my actual levels of rationality! A good friend or sensitive partner is great for this...currently none really around I can trust, living away from home at the moment But also my dyspraxia works for me because I can block out everything with daydreaming and/or getting into the flow of doing something and lose myself in that.
Life is depressing and there is so much that can get you down. Especially when life is so difficult for us to understand in the first place!
I hope that you are feeling a little sunshiney today.

[Tim G]

I don't personally know you but going on what your saying it seams your being too harsh on yourself (I know its easily done though and I know I am being hypocritical). its never the time to worry if your never going to be in a relationship. I am sure it will happen in time you just have to be paitaint and not think that it defiantly wont happen.

I too can easily get stressed over stupid things but the thing is they arnt stupid when your in that moment its the biggest thing ever so i can understand how it is - this is quite common for dyspraxics.

Dyspraxica and depression sadly go together a lot of the time, knowing about dyspraxicia and what we struggle with its no surprise.
I have had big issues with depression and anxiety but did get through it. Unfortunately I think any mental illness never really goes away its about dealing with it better and making it through the really difficult times.

[ALADDIN]

I am depressed, because I have a degree, Postgrad, Professional qualification, I have never achieved my potential. Do I have a future

I drive, I might not a brilliant driver.

Dyspraxia awareness is too weak, resulting in poor understanding, diffiiculty understanding the condition, hard to get a diagnosis.

[madlittleminx92]

i have extra suckyness because depression runs in my family too so it's coming at me from both sides but i've started taking st johns wort which helps. Thanks for replying guys, it's nice to know i'm not a nutter x

[LuluBoo]

I have depression and dyspraxia
At the moment when I've been making headway with my depression I've had loads of setbacks
It sucks my uncle has recently been diagnosed with depression also

[nickye]

Yes, I have had depression and anxiety on and off for years, although (as I might have said elsewhere on this website) since I've know about dyspraxia, my depression has eased a lot. Instead of beating myself for things I can't do very well, I pat myself on the back now for having a go. This may sound silly, but years I always felt i was different and couldn't do simple things that other people could do. I was always accused of not trying or being lazy when actually I was putting in a lot of effort! So finding out about dyspraxia and coming on here and sharing stories with people has been brilliant.

I'm having a test for dyspraxia this Friday. The lady I spoke to on the phone sounded lovely, and she said that depression and dyspraxia/dyslexia do often go together.

I am on anti-depressants at the moment, but feel much better now than I did so hope I will be able to come off before long. I know anti-depressants often get a bad press, but I've found them really helpful, and have never been addicted or really had many side effects. The important thing is, I try to see them as just helping me get through for a while, while I work on helping myself. They don't replace therapy/self-help, but they can help ease things to get you into the frame of mind to help yourself.

I will let you know what the lady who tests me says - she might have some advice about depression hopefully.

[madlittleminx92]

I know anti-depressants often get a bad press, but I've found them really helpful, and have never been addicted or really had many side effects.

I too am on anti depressants and have found them extremely helpful, i think my sister and i are the only one's in my family to take this step and it has payed off. I obviously still have my down days as i'm only taking the herbal remedy "St Johns wort" (which contrary to popular opinion is extremely helpful to people with mild-moderate depression) I would definitely recommend it to anyone reading this.

[Moot]

The Miserable thoughts and feelings have been with me a long time. It varies in intensity but it's always there in some way. :/ I haven't seeked help, though. Just hope things will improve if I can finally get my life more in order!

[madlittleminx92]

To 'Moo', you should get help, at least go to your GP. I hate to break it to you but things probably won't get better if you just let it happen, you have to do something about it, like i said, i still have my down days but now i've got some help it's so much easier to cope with. I hope you find something that helps you too x

[bookgirl]

I've always been pretty up and down in my moods, even as a child. The last wee while has been easier but I get so frustrated because I have all these ideas for things I want to be doing and can plan them out but going through with the plan seems so hard. I get paranoid about people stealing my ideas - not unfounded - I chat openly about things I think I could/would like to do and can't get them off the ground but someone else can and does. I'm fed up being the inspiration for others to go off and follow my dreams.
I'm so sensitive about so much - emotionally I mean. My boyfriend is the total opposite. It's difficult. He lives in a town 1hr 30mins away by train from me and this has been going on for 2 years. I have debt and trouble getting and holding down a job so I can't move in with him and don't want to give up my secure tenancy if it won't work out with him but he can't - and I don't expect him to - support us both financially. I'm fed up with just seeing him at weekends. Recently I started a night class and stay at his that night during the week but it's still me doing the travel to see him.
I'll be 33 this year and I'm fed up of being the only one of my friends who isn't married or living with a partner. Another friend recently got engaged - it's so hard to think this may never happen for me. I want someone to love me that much. I asked him this weekend what it was exactly that he liked about me. He said I was gorgeous, kind and caring - and pleasant to have around. Th word pleasant made me cry - that's not much depth of feeling after two years!! He then explained/reminded me that he has difficulty expressing himself, he's like the other side of my coin - I've always been very verbal and good with language. He has some very dyspraxic/aspergers traits but he does seem willing to put in effort to learn about relationship stuff, if that doesn't sound horrible!
Work, even when it's going well like the past almost year I've been employed causes me great stress.
I'm pretty sure I'm seasonally affected - Spring and Autumn are especially bad in the lead up to the change of the clocks. No one else seems to keep track of this and I've lost count of the times I've asked proffessionals for help with this - they keep saying they'll monitor it and all the time I'm just fighting the suicidal feelings I have. It's exhausting.

[Tim G]

You have a partner who clearly loves and cares for you very much, yes he may not be able to show it that well but that's probably due to the issues with aspergus / dyspraxic trates. The thing is he is putting in the effort and not just saying well that's me and I wont bother like some others do.

I am sure he loves you enough to be engaged to you but I think he may not want to because of the situation your both in, as nice as it would be it probably wont help things. Yes your friends are getting married, engaged and living together, I am sure you will have your time, unfortunately it may just be longer then others.

Have you done research into seasonal affective disorder (SAD), it is relatively common and more is known about it now and there are also light products that may help.
If your feeling suicidal then you should really talk to the doctor more about it and really put forward you case and show them that you need help, don't settle for being fobbed off.

Also what kind of work do you do as this may be affecting your moods as well in regards to SAD