Talking to people in my head

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Captain_Ludd » Sun Dec 30, 2012 1:55 pm

Tim G wrote:I had no idea the term was made up by dyspraxics for dyspraxics but it does make sence that its probably the case
Sorry my typing was a bit off (id just spent the day writing an essay and was V tired :) ).

What I was trying to say was that I can't see day dreaming being a purely dyspraxic trait and being made up by them or for them cos to many people do it.

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by minniemoo » Mon Dec 31, 2012 11:49 am

Once again I'm forced to say how much I love to read what all of you are saying. :)

I agree with so much here - about the wanting people more in your life/processing thoughts etc. it is all so normal and so true.

If we could harness all our creativity just think what we could do!!! :D

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by LuluBoo » Tue Jan 15, 2013 8:03 pm

I've done this
i do it a lot its really weird
i feel like i actually spoke to that person
i also plan out conversations too

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Tim G » Thu Jan 24, 2013 8:38 pm

I know it can / is considerd wierd but I don't really mind that as it seams to help me and i dont really have a problem with being wierd as such.
I do at times plan out convosations but often it iver dosent go to plan and is ok or just fails as I forget the plan. However when it does work it does help so its probably somthing I should try to do more often.
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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Timmycom » Sun Jan 27, 2013 3:13 pm

Errrrrrrrrrrrrm.... I do do this... 0_o Not... Erm. To the extreme? But I do often make scenario's in my head and rehearse them. Used to do it a lot. Honestly am not sure if it's a dyspraxic thing though... I think its more to do with anxiety and confidence, in that you need to rehearse these things in a safe environment before you can go forth and actually confront the situation. Another thing is that if you CANNOT confront the situation then you might just rehearse them in your head in order to find some... Some sort of closure. Like. You know you can't have it for real, so it's comforting to have these things happen in your head so you can move past them... I have been known to do this as well.

But like I say I do not think this is something to do with dyspraxia. I think its a normal thing that we all do in times of Anxiety, and if your councillor says otherwise I would get a second opinion, or try and phrase yourself better maybe? Not that I think that you're phrasing is the problem :| . I honestly just think it's a symptom of Anxiety and/or depression. When I've been depressed in the past I have done this a lot, especially when I felt it was difficult to do so in real life. :-k

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by raisin girl » Mon Jan 28, 2013 9:53 pm

What you've described in your post sounds spookily familiar to me in almost every respect. I do these things the time. It's something deeply private to me, all the more so since my friendship with the one person I have ever hinted to about it broke down. I spoke to a therapist about it for the first time a couple of years ago during a course of CBT and he assured me it isn't a mental health problem in itself. I don't think it's to do with dyspraxia in itself either, more a symptom of depression/anxiety. It's reassuring to hear someone else describe it, though.
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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Willr0490 » Tue Jan 29, 2013 10:00 am

I do this occasionally.

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Piggle » Wed Feb 06, 2013 4:13 am

I'm so glad I found this thread :D

I do this all the time and no one has ever understood what I mean when I have tried to explain it to them. I do find it interferes with stuff though coz I forget what I was doing or if I was suppose to do something. It also messed with my DBT skills coz a lot of it is to do with observing your thoughts and visualisation. It makes it tricky when all your thoughts are being verbalized in your head and you can't visualize things properly.

Peculiar, I have experience with sometimes getting a reply. It has being at times when I am under a lot of stress and my borderline PD takes over a bit. I think that's when it can get a bit damaging for me coz i will be going over depressing nasty stuff multiple times and then someone will agree with me :(

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Underpressure33 » Tue Mar 20, 2018 3:06 am

Ahhh! I have spent my whole life thinking I was super weird because I do this allll the time! I thought it was only me. I’m so excited right now!
Peculiar wrote:I do talk to people in my head, as you say, because I want them to be more in my life. Sometimes I talk to myself to work out problems or to organize a thought, or to just try and figure out how something works. But for the most part of me talking to myself, I'm in a constant "interview" with an invisible, nameless person, and I'm relaying my life as it happens, but talking about it as if it's in the past tense. Like I'm in an interview in the future reflecting on my past, except it's in the present, and currently happening... If that makes any sense. Once in a while I'll hear a voice in my head, not my own, but it answers a question or predicament I've been contemplating. I like to pretend they are ghosts :D

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by MusicL22 » Thu Apr 12, 2018 3:43 pm

I saw this post and felt I needed to reply because I get this all the time. A lot of the time I start thinking about something or someone and start babbling in my head about what I should of said to them while daydreaming the conversation etc. Other times I daydream and have conversations with people in my head about the thing I am daydreaming about, like a situation that has not happened but could have or may do. I read that dyspraxics tend to daydream but I thought it was normal to because as they say there's a hundred thoughts a minute going through most people's heads.

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Xam » Fri Apr 13, 2018 5:13 pm

I have this, and it's been a long time since I do. Real blight, can make you lose yourself for minutes. Can make you look ridiculous if someone sees/hears you. I have to fight it off when I walk in the street.
Also, speaking of control : sometimes, when I'm amongst people I know yet let the control "slip", they catch a glimpse of my "stare". When this happens, everyone will say that I have a scary look, like I can't hide my anger against the world within my eyes for a moment.

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Dreamer » Fri Apr 20, 2018 5:29 pm

I talk to my friends at my head since I was born . I think I develop this cause I have always troubles to make a friends. I also like create stories at my head it's quiet entraiting but sometimes is can get little bit too much. I try reduce my day dreaming with tasks I really need to do. Also zen meditation or Thai chi can help me keep in boring reality.

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by allesandro » Sun Apr 22, 2018 2:19 am

I do that but to a much lesser degree than when I was younger. It wasn't much different from the manner in which you describe it and, yes, it did interfere with daily functioning. I think having more practice in interacting with people has helped

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by Dreamer » Tue Apr 24, 2018 1:28 pm

I find also when I talk too much at my head I feel more tired and sleepy. I think if you have really some friends around you . You talk lesser to you but more to them. And also you feel more happier and relax.

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Re: Talking to people in my head

Post by RedRevolver » Thu May 17, 2018 11:05 pm

I've always practiced conversations out loud, not sure whether that's due to anxiety or loneliness or to get out angry feelings, I think it's probably a mixture of all three.

I've spoken to several psychologists about it, all of whom have pretty much found it 'endearing' and not cause for alarm as although I can get quite involved, I'm under no illusion that I'm talking to someone and can keep it quite separate from reality.

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